Parenting with ADHD

A week after the life-transforming moment of birth, the dopamine rush goes away. What are you left with? A bundle of joy and a high probability of it going in your path.

ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition affecting millions of people worldwide. It is characterized by symptoms such as impulsiveness, hyperactivity, inattention, zoning out. For parents living with ADHD it can be challenging to face the new role of the caregiver.

However, as any ADHDer who has tried to battle the impulse to not get things done knows, a proper strategy and support is a way to go. A plan makes everything seem more manageable, and situations seem more organized with a structure roooted in your day-to-day life. Here are a few things to consider with a baby by your side and planning spree in your head:

You are still you.

You and your way of life will be determining the way of life of your child. Does this thought scare you? It shouldn't — this is the same for parents with any diagnosis, or without one whatsoever. We grew up and accustomed certain habits, routines and models of thinking into becoming who we are- and we will pass that onto the next generation. That's perfectly alright. It should be clear that this is not a point where you will stop caring about yourself. A proper self-care, self-love and acceptance of your state is the best way to a calm and happy mind.

Look at your offspring- can you see the lesson about the importance of being a bit selfish? It!s already giving you one. Infant cries when it's hungry, tired, bored or in need of hygiene — and you should reconnect with yourself and check what it is that you need. When you are satisfied, it is much easier to fulfill the needs of others. Plan your self-care days regularly!

2. Know your enemy

Since you lived with yourself so long, you probably know, what could go wrong — is it a day-long binge of a weird 80s sci-fi show or a weekend compulsively cleaning your home? Make a list of those behaviours that you think are not compatible with parenting. Now, with your baby in your hands, think again — I bet you can see not many of those things that appealing now, or perhaps you will find a way to enjoy them with a baby by your side. Try them with your kid in a baby sling!

3. Routines and structure

This will not be a huge surprise to you — routines and daily rituals can help you get more organized and therefore happier. Many books have been written on this topic, so there are many approach strategies out there. Pick the one that suits you and see how it works out. The routine is a must for a toddler — so they know when to expect feeding, sleep and family time. Do your best to find a schedule that fits all members of the family.

Afternoon walk with a stroller is a great way to reflect and recollect. Don't forget to mark down your thoughts!

4. Support network

Family and friends are a big source of well-being, so find a time to get together and have fun with the people that are close to you. Don't be afraid to ask them for help or an advice. Learn from your surroundings, and pass this amazing skill to your heir.

However the first week, month or a year went, don't think that it's late for a change. Make a small goal and write it down, pin it on a bathroom mirror and set it as a reminder. Stick with it and see your surroundings change. You've got this!