On raising children

In today's society, raising children can be a challenge. About twenty to thirty years ago a father and mother used to be able to beat their child when their child misbehaved. In modern times, you can go to jail just for spanking your child in public. I wrote this article to help parents that are struggling with raising their child to have a better insight on the proper way to handle their child and also some information when it comes to those sweet sixteen years.

While some parents don't have an issue with raising their children, there are others who are having a lot of difficulty. Children can be a challenge to handle. Teenagers in modern times see their friends having babies and dating, younger children are allowed at the ages of twelve and thirteen to attend the theaters to go see movies alone without their parents with them. Some teenagers as well as some children are even allowed to have their own cell phones where they may have access to internet. Other children may see this and become jealous that their parents can't afford or don't approve of these things. Some children or teenagers are just difiant in general. Here are some tips to help you to be able to handle your children better.

1. Lower your tone of voice

It's alright to be firm with your children. Raising your voice will only cause your child to become more difiant. They will feel like you don't really care about their feelings. They will even feel disrespected. You should put yourself in your child's shoes when it comes to raising your voice to your child.

Lowering your tone of voice and being more firm will make you more authoritive. It shows the child that you mean what you say. It takes a lot of patience and it may take quite a few tries, especially if the child is used to being yelled at. Eventually, however, it will work and your child will start to see that this is how it is.

2. Keep executing time out-

Time out is a good strategy to get your child to understand that you are the parent and you are in charge. Sometimes when the parent puts the child into time out he or she may just ran back out. If that happens continue to put your child back in time out and reset the timer. When the child sees that you are not giving up on time out than he or she will remain in time out until their time is finished. If your child starts to scream and shout or starts acting out in time out the best thing to do is ignore it. It's best to pay no attention to him or her because that's what the child wants. When the time out is over you will go over to the child, explain again why they have been put into time out and ask for a sincere apology. If your child is a teenager it's best to send them to their rooms, set the timer, and then explain again and ask for an apology. After apologies, gives hugs and kisses. That way your children know you forgive them.

3. Give rewards when your child has done well-

Not every parent can afford to spend money on their child. But giving a small reward will most definitely benefit yourself and your child. Write down the rules and post them to the wall. Go over the rules with the kids and go over the rewards they will be given when they succeed in following those rules. Explain what the consequences will be when the rules get broken and that there will not be second chances when the rules get broken.

4. Stay consistant and follow through-

Most parents find it hard emotionally to follow through with disipline. This can become a set back when you are trying to get your child or teenager to do what you ask. This is the main reason why disapline doesn't work. Staying consistant with disapline is important because the child will soon see that the parent is the one in charge. You must follow through with punishments or the child will never learn from it.

Remember no one is a perfect parent and you are going to have to expect that you will mess up at times. But your children need to know that through thick and thin you will be there. Blessings to you.