Life with children

A successful life with kids

Are you concerned with your child? Feeling as if you are not raising your child successfully? The older generation making you think your wrong in your parenting?

Questioning your every move is natural. Children are going to try to get away with things and make you question what you are doing as a a parent. They are naturally going to see what they can get away with. This is okay. It is all about how you respond to each situation. Responding accordingly is crucial. The way that you respond is the way that they will respond to life obstacles. There is not one way or another of successfully raising a child. Life changes, so to say that you have to raise a child the way the older generations did can be a catch 22 statement.

So are you successful at disciplining your child? Is your child running over you to do what he/she wants? Are they not doing as they should for everyday life decisions?

Discipline is tricky. Finding the right direction is the key. A weakness to child is everything. When I say weakness I don’t mean hurting them. For instance some kids take well to spanking and others take well to a sit down talk or taking things away. Every personality is different and it’s our responsibility to figure this out accordingly to each personality to discipline and motivate our children to do the right thing. For instance My oldest daughter does not take kindly to a spanking but if I sit and talk to her and explain the situation and why she is in trouble, she listens and changes what I’ve explained. Where as my son does not take to well to talking, the trick with him is to take his devices away then he is motivated to make sure that he changes what ever it is to get them back. The key to this is to set a time limit. So if you say “ I am taking your device away until you get your act together” then stick to it. Once you fault to this they have found that you are easy and will play on this. If you say “ go sit in your room and wait on me to talk/spank” then you better show up in the time that you have stated you will be there. This is key to teaching them not only discipline but also keeping structure and them knowing that you mean what you say. They follow your actions.

Your plans verses their plans....

This is a hard pill to swallow for a lot of parents. We all want what’s best for our children so we try to guide. That being said guiding them is not forcing to be where you want them to be. By forcing a child to do something you have planned and they do not want you will push them to other goals that will not include you. It’s all about guidance and letting them make their own decisions with advice when needed from you. Their plans may not be what you want because you know where it will lead. The only thing you can do at this point is to tell what you think will happen and leave it at that support no matter the outcome. When they fail it is not your job to criticize. That will keep them from wanting to let you in on their plans. Always be open and honest but never put their thoughts down. One thing to always remember is failure leads to success. We want to protect them yes. But unless they fail they will never know or have the experience and know how to overcome what we are teaching. It’s hard to watch your child fail but worth the wait and watching them succeed with more knowledge and experience in the end. If you shelter your child from life lessons they will not know how to survive when it’s time for them to shine.