How can I keep my child from becoming complacent?

I'm afraid that combating education for children is something that many parents often do without realizing what the problem is.

We often see a scene around us: a child has won an award in his or her field of interest with his or her efforts and perseverance. But after the parents learned, but immediately began to combat the child, and even directly spoke to criticize the child what can be complacent, but just a small award, can go to the world competition ah

Parents may be teaching their children to be humble or criticizing them for not doing their job, but this will ultimately lead to a series of negative effects on the child's personality and growth.

If a child is often hit, what will be the impact?

One: low self-esteem

Many adults who have a more pronounced tendency to be timid or to avoid problems are mostly affected by the fact that their parents have been educating them with blows for a long time.

Such negative education makes the child grow up lacking a certain motivation, and lack of interest in things, can not afford to cope, and even that, the child will also have clear character shortcomings, such as seeing that their powerful people will show inferiority complex, also dare not compare with each other.

Two: Rebellion

There are many reasons for the rebellion, some are because the child does not want to live under the shelter of their parents, and some are because the parents repeatedly discipline themselves so that the child has the idea of rebellion.

The crackdown on education can also lead to such rebelliousness because the child keeps being interrupted by the parents when he or she is on his or her way up, causing the child to end up becoming depressed and therefore become wanting to gain the opportunity to achieve self-worth by rebelling against the parents.

III: Degeneration

The child is like a diamond in the rough, if the parents do not polish it in time when it is critical, then the child is likely to fail to be refreshed and become a glorious jewel. The child who is under the influence of a crackdown education is constantly denied by the parents, and in the end, even he or she despises himself or herself.

A child who has reached this point will not have any enthusiasm to face life and learning, so much so that he or she will have to face the future with decadence, degradation, and negative posture.

Although some parents already know the disadvantages of combating education, they are still afraid that their children do not know how to be humble, and even in a hurry, they combat their children's complacency. So, how to make children not complacent? Don't use combat education, smart parents need to learn to "cool down".

How should parents use "cooling" to educate their children?

1, to respect the child

Parents treat their children with a gentle rain of education, to ensure that the child's personality is respected, and not to be hit at will, so that, even if the child has what kind of more intense rebellious ideas, will slowly cool down.

So to speak, a child's personality needs to be respected to achieve growth, and in this process, the child will be able to establish the direction of his or her life by knowing himself or herself and then knowing the world. Respect for children is to give them the confidence to plan their plans so that they can gradually realize the value of their own lives.

2, to communicate with the child friendly

Communication is a great way to cool down because, in the process of communication, children can learn more through communication with their parents, to reflect on their own more childish perceptions of things; parents can also learn more about the child's ideas in the communication with the child, to recognize which stage the child has grown up to.

Communication with each other can make the parent-child relationship that has become agitated because of the wrong parenting style cool down, and there is a chance that the parent-child relationship can be gradually restored to the old one, forming a good educational model.

Parents are already aware of the disadvantages of combating education and the benefits of cooling education, but how to make their children become humble people, but at the same time, parents do not have to combat the way to "urge" their children's parents can try to use such methods.

What is the best way to teach humility to children?

First, let your child know the importance of humility

Humility will make people progress. It is difficult for children to understand this point, so parents can only use practical examples and things that children encounter to guide and educate them so that they can gradually realize how humility can help them.

Second, let children know the dangers of pride

Complacency can make people lose sight of their surroundings, including their strengths. For a student who needs to constantly improve himself or herself to achieve self-worth, pride is as fierce as poison. Parents may want to let their children know about cases where complacency has failed and the dangers of pride.

Finally, lead by example

If parents are humble and courteous, children will naturally be infected by their parent's behavior and learn from their parents' patterns of behavior so that they can become humble and polite children.

Although complacency has many disadvantages for children, the bad effects of combating education are more serious than children's complacency, therefore, parents should find the right way to educate their children, so that the right medicine can be prescribed to help children build noble qualities without having "side effects".