Honey, don't always look down on children

The same children, some can listen to understand the big reason, but some are rebellious and impolite, the gap is often in the parental education style.

Especially before the child is six years old, your education style may determine what kind of person he will grow up to be in the future.

Tolerance for children is decreasing

It is said that when children reach the age of seven or eight, they are too old for dogs.

This is because children start to "disobey", and "talk back" and have a lot of "rebellious" behavior. At the age of three or four, most will listen to mom and dad, how well managed ah.

Why is it that the older you get, the more annoying it is?

There is an important reason that is often overlooked.

It's that parents' "tolerance" for their children has changed.

Have you ever felt that when the child is small, it is okay to make some mistakes, toys are not organized, help the child to pick up, or will patiently call the child over, together with the good, the whole picture is happy, feel that they have developed good habits of children, and I am so patient?

But the child is older, made some mistakes, messed up the house, you will not be so patient to ask the child to tidy up, often fiercely called him over, and then accused a series of, and then asked him to hurry to tidy up.

The whole picture is a tense one, with the child furiously tidying up and you getting even angrier and then nagging him on the sidelines.

In the end, it's our expectations of our children that are growing.

And our tolerance for our children is decreasing

So it's always a case of looking the other way, pushing and shouting, scolding and rushing ......

If your child's classmates or friends are doing better, it's easy to compare your child with other children, which will intensify this anxiety and make your child even more "uncomfortable"

Smart parents, know how to teach their children well

In pedagogy, there is a point of view.

The growth process of a child is like a mountain, to get over this mountain, the road will encounter a variety of major and minor slopes, corresponding to the different age groups.

The age of 6 is a critical slope, this stage is in the contradictory period of self-discovery, they are a little confused about the world regulations cognition, on the one hand, is the development of self-awareness at will, on the other hand, are the constraints of the objective and calm rules.

You will find that children around 6 years old sometimes tend to get into trouble and break rules, for example, they may lie, fight, bully their classmates, act recklessly, and have unusually volatile emotions.

In a way, these are the results of their exploration of the world and are a necessary part of the developmental process.

We all mature in the process of stumbling and falling.

In this process, parenting style is particularly important.

Your response to your child's behavior as his or her guide is especially critical.

A wrong educational philosophy: "He is still just a child", the child is not capable of self-care and parents have to do everything; the child has no sense of right and wrong and may be understood for getting into trouble.

The parents can no longer treat him as a child, otherwise, they are harming themselves

Give your child more love

Affirm your child from the inside, accept your child, and let him feel safe and warm, he can face himself without fear, find out the truth about his personality, objective analysis, and know what is good and what is not.

It is also important to help the child to achieve small successes so that he can feel the sense of accomplishment that comes from a good character.

Let your child be afraid to try for fear of failure and to overdo the paperwork for fear of rebuke. Do not criticize your child easily, as long as it is not a mistake of principle, generally do not blame, do not correct, let him think, and explore on his own.

For a child who is by nature restrained, give him a little more decision in the arrangement of time, the use of objects, the choice of friends, and so on, so that the child's character has room to grow freely so that he can let go.

For children who are reckless by nature, more careful guidance, neither harsh discipline and rebellion nor indulgence and loss of upbringing.

For children who are afraid to make mistakes, see what serious consequences will happen, and the sky will not fall, in frustration to exercise the ability to resist frustration.

For the rash kid who is not afraid of the world, it is also worth letting him make some small mistakes to pay the price for their recklessness and learn a lesson in making mistakes.

Of course, these need to grasp the proportion and do not cause actual harm to the child.

Write at the end

When parents give their children warm love and teaching, it makes their behavior more regular and appropriate.

It also allows them to get enough psychological nourishment for their emotional development so that they are less impulsive, extreme, and aggressive.

Instead, they will become calm, patient, and verbal.

And for those deficiencies, go ahead and accept them.

Allow them to grow slowly and not be too impatient.

When their behavior becomes unbearable, be calm.

When you think about it, don't we have children in front of us that don't have strengths?