High-level family, dad will do these three things! On the other hand, low-level families only like to be "reasonable" constantly.

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Before being a good father, you must first be a good husband.

Before you can be a good mother, you must be a happy mother.

Recently, I saw a piece of news that made people laugh:

On Father's Day, a Jiangsu student sent a message to his father:

Dad, I love you.

The father replied: unfortunately, I only love your mother.

The child could not laugh or cry and posted a screenshot, sighing the "plastic father-daughter relationship."

Unexpectedly, netizens like one after another:

Parents are so close, you can have fun secretly!

Such interaction is indeed a good thing.

Psychologist Kohut believes that:

Parents' mode of getting along with each other is the child's first impression of the world.

Dad loves mom, and mom loves this family more.

The mother is taken care of and the family atmosphere is more positive.

As a result, children can grow up in love.

When you reach adulthood, you will be more mature and confident.

And "Dad loves Mom" is also the best education for children.

Smart dad.

All know how to give their mothers a holiday.

I once saw a video: the father went to his daughter's house as a guest, the son-in-law played leisurely games, and the daughter picked up piles of toys and dirty clothes while making phone calls to pick up work.

Father was filled with remorse at this.

Once upon a time, his wife was so busy at home that he turned a blind eye to it.

Today, the daughter has followed in her mother's footsteps and has become the "mother" of the whole family.

If time can be turned back, he wants to tell himself:

Give your wife a holiday and do more housework on your own.

Why? because the husband's attitude towards his wife hides what his children will look like in the future.

The female writer the whale of entering the river once told a story.

On the subway, a little boy ran very fast and occupied a vacant seat. Then he said to his mother next to him:

Mom, come here, there's room!

Mother said:

You sit, and I'll stand with your father.

But the boy said:

I'm a boy. I don't have to sit. Mom, you sit.

After she sat down, the husband gave his son a look of approval.

In fact, the husband is on his way to work, while the son and wife are going out to play.

When the husband got out of the car, he solemnly told his son:

You must take good care of my wife, don't cry, don't mess with her.

That's my wife, okay?

I'll make money for you!

The boy patted his chest to ensure that the look of the little man amused the whole car.

With a father who loves his wife, how can the parent-child relationship be bad?

American writer Joan. Anderson believes that:

Mom must have her own little vacation.

After all, it is terrible for yourself and others to give endlessly.

On the other hand, mothers without stress are emotionally adjusted to take better care of their children and sympathize with their children's feelings.

Children will be healthier physically and mentally.

Therefore, smart fathers all know how to give their mothers a holiday, and women who are cared for by their husbands have a soft and stable heart, are better at accepting and tolerant, and can create a warm family atmosphere.

A good dad.

All know how to respect their mother.

When her best friend and son went out to run errands, they inadvertently learned that her husband commented in front of the children that "the mother is very stupid."

The best friend was so angry that she came home and questioned her husband:

Why don't you respect her in front of the child?

The husband realized the seriousness of the problem and quickly apologized:

"I was just saying casually, but I didn't expect my son to remember."

"if you have any dissatisfaction with me, you can mention it to me in private, but you must not hurt my image in the child's heart."

There is a Pygmalion law in psychology:

People will unconsciously accept the influence and hints of others, especially those who like, admire and trust.

Children can feel it when their parents argue and have a cold war.

A 75-year study at Harvard University found:

Fathers respect their mothers, and when they reach adulthood, their children feel more positive emotions and have higher levels of self-confidence and self-esteem.

This kind of respect comes not only from giving gifts and holding hands, but from the bottom of the heart to respect the personality of the wife.

For example, respect your mother's feelings.

French men are proud to praise their mothers.

Businesses will write words such as "I am as beautiful as my mother" and "I love my mother" on children's products.

They will take practical actions to call on husbands to protect their wives.

A university in the United States spent three years studying 169 five-and ten-year-olds.

The results show that:

In a family where the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious and parents tend to blame each other.

Children are more likely to get sick and have psychological problems.

But children raised by parents with a cheerful personality and a relaxed family atmosphere

Not only rarely get sick, but also not easy to be troubled by psychological problems.

For example, respect your mother's right to speak.

In a good education, partners don't break up in front of their children.

When there is a conflict in the parent-child relationship, the father is always on the mother's side, allowing the child to express anger, but not blaming his wife.

When there is a dispute in education, it will not break up in front of the children, but will communicate in private.

Let the child know that "the mother at home is in charge."

It virtually reduces the burden of parenting and makes mothers more confident and principled.

When education is unified into one voice, children will also be psychologically healthier.

There is a "law of watches" in psychology:

If a man wears only one watch, he can keep track of the time accurately.

If you wear two watches, you can't keep track of the time.

Children can't figure out which side is right, and their sense of proportion in speaking and doing things will be destroyed.

Professor Medina, a famous American brain scientist, once received a question from a father:

How can I help my son be admitted to Harvard

Professor Medina said:

From now on, you go home and love your wife.

Someone asked:

Why did you let that father go home and love his wife?

Medina replied:

In the United States, the best predictor of academic achievement is family emotional stability.

Most of the emotional stability of the family can be predicted by the wife's mood.

The implication of his words is:

The wife is emotionally stable and the family atmosphere is warm.

Only when children grow up in a warm atmosphere, with self-discipline and concentration in their studies, can they be admitted to a famous school.

Successful fathers know how to accompany their children.

Psychologists believe that:

What is more terrible than the absence of a father is the lack of fatherly love.

The father is seldom at home, or never accompanied seriously, even if the mother is extremely responsible, the child also has inner regrets.

A pediatrician found that his son made sentences during the exam:

My father always works the night shift.

Sadly and guiltily, he asked the child, "how did you think of making this sentence?"

The child replied: because you are not at home every day, I can not see you.

Developmental psychologists believe that:

After the child is 6-8 years old, the importance of the father is gradually magnified.

The same sentence, said by the father, has 50 times more influence on the child than the mother.

Therefore, the wise father values companionship.

To accompany the boy, his father should often play games with him and cultivate the qualities of bravery and initiative.

To accompany a girl, her father should always praise her efforts and advantages and guide h