Hey Momma

Hey guys! This is for the new mommas or the ones who just feel alone. No, you don't have to be a momma to read this. All in all, enjoy and I hope you get some insight.

Hey momma, I see you struggling today. I see the tears staining your face. I see the low self esteem and the doubt. I see it all. I see the way you are trying to hide your mood from everyone, especially your littles. Momma, you are not alone. Call on your family and friends. Call on your partner. If you need a minute to compose yourself, that is perfectly okay. I know it seems rough right now. I know it seems like you are not doing anything right, but I can promise you, you are. Look into the face of your child, and they will show you just how well they think you are doing. They love you momma. You are trying to figure things out just as they are.

Don't doubt your capabilities of being the best for them, because I can tell you, you are. You were chosen to be their mother, because you are the perfect one for them. I know those tantrums get to you. I know the crying spells make you feel useless. I know you are tired, but momma, you are doing so amazing. They are only this little once, and where as it is rough right now, one day they won't need you like they do now. One day, you're going to look back and miss all these moments. You are going to miss all the cuddles and little giggles. You are going to miss all the weird and hilarious things they do. How do I know? Because I am experiencing it too. My oldest doesn't really want my cuddles anymore, and my youngest is moving so fast, before long he won't want them either.

I know it seems so overwhelming right now, but you are making it happen. You are taking it day by day, and that is how you get through. Maybe your little isn't sleeping and you are running on fumes, ask your partner or maybe a trusted friend/family member to watch them for a little while you get some rest. It's been a few days since you showered? Go shower. Go take some time for you. You are not a bad mother for needing time for you. Yes, I know this is basic stuff that should be taken care of, but sometimes you can't take care of it on your own. Especially not if your little is just a baby, or if you have a rambunctious toddler.

It is okay to take time for yourself. It is okay to want a break. Everyone needs a chance to recuperate every once in a while. Taking care of yourself and your mental health does not make you a bad parent. It makes you an even better parent, because you are trying to better yourself for your littles.

Don't worry about you having a break down. Don't worry about you hiding in the bathroom to get a few minutes of alone time. Don't worry about the messy house at the moment. Just breathe momma. Breathe and take it easy. Things will get done. They may not get done as fast as you want them too, but they will get done. I know the littles can be demanding, but momma you are all they have. You are who they run to when they are upset. You are who they run to when they don't feel good. I know it seems like they only show out for you and that you get the worst side of them, but momma you are who they are most comfortable around. When they see you and they start crying or whining, it's not cause they aren't happy to see you, it's because they know you are their comfort zone. You are home. You are what makes everything better. You are their world momma.

One day they will sleep on their own, and they won't need your cuddles to fall asleep. One day they will be able to make their own food and won't need you too. One day momma they will be taking on the world with all the things you taught them. Hold them close and breathe them in. You never know when the last day will be that they sit in your lap, that they want and need your help with something, or even when they stop being little. One day you are going to look and say, "Where has time gone?"

These are your babies momma. You do what is best for them and for you. Don't worry about what others will think, because guess what? They don't know what works best for you and your family. Only you do. So, go ahead and cry and weep. Go ahead and take that break. Go ahead and be the boss mom I know you can be.

We all have our moments where we feel as a failure, especially in parenting. You are not alone. No one parents perfectly, because there is no way to perfectly parent. Every child is different and needs a different approach. Just love on them and love on yourself momma. That light will shine through soon.

Remember, you are enough. Everything you are doing is good enough. Honestly, everything you are doing is more than enough. You need your babies just as much as they need you. When you get bogged down, remember it's okay to cry, but also remember to boss up and do what you do best: Be their mom. They love you just how you are, now it's time to love yourself.

Teach your babies all about self-love. With the way the world is going, they are going to need it. No one is going to love them like you do momma. Prepare them. Guide them. Teach them. They will be glad you did. You got this. I know you do.

You are awesome momma 😍.

Sincerely,

A momma and her littles🖤