Dear, Mr. Mine,

I don’t think people understand parenthood or partnership the way that it’s actually meant to be. You’re given guidelines of love and manuals on how to be the perfect parent- but, in actuality, how do these things come about on realistic situations? I guarantee, I promise you, reading between the lines is the best lesson of everything. find your own rhythm- your own balance, share it amongst others but appreciate the differences in everyone, and every thing. We're all trying to be the best lesson we can be, and I really think, that’s the most important lesson of them all.

Belief, Acceptance, Love.

Let’s just begin on partnership. Being the best girlfriend or boyfriend, getting likes on photos, getting admiration and being boasted of are just some strong characteristics of things to avoid. These are toxic to relationships because they’re greedy, they’re selfish and while loving yourself is very important to a healthy relationship, so is loving the other person for exactly who they are. Now, I’m not saying if your partner is cuckoo to stand by it, by all means think logically, but don’t allow there to be an alpha. You both matter, both of your feelings matter and both of you deserve recognition. In a one sided relationship, there’s a lot of abandonment, mental abuse, emotional abuse and escalated trauma, especially to sensitive individuals already.

This doesn’t mean passes aren’t given or mistakes aren’t made, we’re only human, but you need to separate pride from the equation. Nothing works correctly if there’s one over the other- equality is key. Speak of your feelings, announce when you’re comfortable, share when you’re at peace. This is life. Not every day is going to be smooth sailing and relationships at anything but an easy cruise, but the journey to the destination is the most beautiful you’ll ever enjoy.

As a single person, make a list of things you will and will not tolerate. Make it aware in the beginning of what these are, they’re bottled bombs ready to scratch the lining of this sparked attraction. Don’t let it, anything torn is this fragment, is dangerous. It can easily sabotage the relationship, or at the very least, cause some heavier tension than needed in the first few months. many may call this, “the puppy dog stage”, but truth is, if you’re not always excited to know that other person is yours, chances are, your not ready to settle down.

The most important motive here though, make sure your spouse loves the word as much as you. It's very possible to have a relationship and a marriage with one who believes and one who doesn't, but it's a heavier pathway and many don't make it. Be successful with your trust and his word with marriage from the beginning, including sex! I can honestly say had I made wiser choices by following and applying his law to my life from day one, it may not have been so difficult, and it certainly wouldn't have contained so much heartache. He knows what's best for us, and for our spouses and future families, so we should trust in his plan. Which my husband and I follow closely and apply to our independent, coupling and family life. We have flourished! We are happy as a couple and as aging partners in time.

There isn’t a day that goes by, that I don’t get giddy at least once to know that I still have my husband. He’s my best friend and my entire world. We’ve brought two beautiful children in this world together, and he took my son as his own. I know there is no one else for me, because when I dream, I see him and when I meditate and ask for guidance during storms, he’s always with me. He is the epitome of a dream knight for every fairytale, I am so grateful for the miracles working through us and showing us how to have a family and be one flesh together.

Love your spouse, date your spouse, devote and act with grace with your spouse.