COUPLE GOAL

Dear couples,

At the start of every new year I love to remind you about some of the things that are important for you to focus on in your relationship and marriage.

There are just so many amazing love goals I wish I could share with you, but in whatever goals you have set for your relationship already, I want you to intentionally find a way to make these seven keys a part of your focus for the year. We can never aim for too much.

#7 ... Start a LOVE account:
Purposely start putting aside some extra savings for your partner, more like making a financial budget for them. You won't need to wait for your salary before you can take your partner out if you have been saving up a little cash over 3months. Some times you won't need to stretch your income to buy that gift if you have been making a budget over time. How do you feel when they run into emergencies that you are not able to meet because you have nothing saved up to cover up? I need you to think on this, and see how you can fit it into your 2025 financial goals.

#6 ... Always Fight Fair:
Accept that differences of opinion will always come, and disagreements will happen, sure thing. But make a commitment that this year you will not be quick to respond in anger. You will listen to understand your partner's feelings rather than listening to dominate an argument or win the fight. Decide in your heart that you will always respond in a tune that reflects calm, love and peace at all times. Decide that the arguments and disagreement will not be bigger than your love for each other, rather than looking for an exit, you both fix it.

#5... Become Best Friends:
Be willing to spend time in what your partner likes to do if you have a happy marriage goal at heart. And when you do make out time to be with your partner make sure you don’t have one hand on your phone and one eye on the TV, make a commitment to be PRESENT, ATTENTIVE, and SUPPORTIVE in those moments you spend together.

#4 ... Guard Your Tongue:
Can you think of any hurtful words you said in 2024 that you wish you could take back? Paul wrote in Ephesians 4:29. "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building your partner up according to their needs."
Choose to speak to each other with Love this year, let your partner be won by your conversations, and not become bitter by your words.

#3 ... Make God your compass:
After King Jehoshaphat prayed earnestly for God's direction, his concluding prayer always leaves me with a Holy Ghost rush every time I study it, he said, "we do not know what to do Lord, but our eyes are upon you" (2Chronicles 20:12). This year, hand everything over to God, let Him be your eyes and ears, let Him be your compass when you are thinking about the proposal and when you are thinking about setting the wedding date. You will never know your partner too much to make a decision leaning on your own wisdom even after 12years of courtship, always pause and inquire of the Lord, and let Him be the wind in your sail.

#2 ... Stop Keeping Score:
Learn to forgive each other and sincerely forget the wrongs. There is no reward for who was right and who was wrong. Be the first to apologize even though you were the last to curse. Stop giving your partner silent treatment. Stop ghosting because you are angry. The success of a relationship depends more on the strength of your partner, not on their weaknesses. Do away with bad character and emotional manipulation. Relationships don't die a natural déath, they die as a result of your negligence and bad character is one of them.

#1... Spend Prayer Time Together:
For some dating couples, if you add up all the time they have spent praying together in 2024 it is not up to 10minutes. Yea, it's that bad. Some did not even remember to pray at all, it's just been about romance all year. That has to change this 2025, schedule a time to pray daily, weekly or monthly. Study devotional guides together, start fasting as frequently as you can. You don’t need to be close to achieve this, you can pray on the phone occasionally, and give each other Bible scriptures to meditate on. Social media is a huge plus for you. Waiting to do all this when you are married will be the biggest marriage mistake you will ever make. Start practicing it now, and let it become a part of your lifestyle together.