Chinese little fairy: selfish, hypocritical, shallow, willful, Vanity, foreign sentiment, greed, arrogance

During the Mid - Autumn Festival some time ago, I had already talked with my boyfriend about having some time to go home and meet my family. He was invited to come to my home for dinner. Although he originally also needed to go home for dinner, he couldn't resist my family's enthusiasm, and we also specially called a large number of relatives, and he followed me back.

When having a meal, it was originally a happy and harmonious atmosphere, but my father is the kind of person who likes to brag. When pointing at the landscape of the mountains and rivers, the words said may have some mistakes. I asked my boyfriend's opinion, and he just smiled and felt that he didn't like to answer me very much. My father, this person usually also likes to save face, so I feel that my boyfriend doesn't respect him very much. Moreover, when I asked him to drink with my father, he also declined. Although he is still studying, usually I also know that he doesn't drink at all. But after all, it is the elder's request, but he still declined. Because relatives looked at it, it might make my father feel a little unhappy, saying that my boyfriend is the kind of person who doesn't know how to behave (said with a smile).

After dinner, because the dishes were all made by my mother, (the seafood was very fresh) my father asked my boyfriend to wash the dishes to help my aunt. My boyfriend never does housework at home. I know this is because his family is very rich, and there is a special nanny. I said it was okay to help, but my father said to have a chat with him. Then he let my boyfriend wash the dishes alone in the kitchen. I don't know if it is because he is more delicate. He washed for about half an hour, and then he still broke a bowl (he said it was not careful). My father felt that he was not satisfied with what he said, and his words might be a little harsh, which might hurt his self - esteem. (His self - esteem is very strong and can't bear these hardships. My family is used to it. The academic atmosphere is very heavy, and usually it is also a comparison - loving face). He also didn't apologize for breaking the bowl. This matter is over. After dealing with the kitchen affairs, when facing all our relatives' greetings, he didn't respond enthusiastically. I originally wanted to catch up, but my father called me to stop.

I said a lot of good words on WeChat, and then he said he wanted to break up, and even deleted my WeChat messages. I don't understand very well. Even if my family doesn't give him face, he also doesn't give my family face. I'm just caught in the middle. Why is it that I become the victim instead? The real victim should not be me?

My father is also wrong, but I think he is also a little arrogant. That is, when having a meal, he can't stop bragging. When washing the dishes, he still broke a bowl. When leaving, he doesn't greet enthusiastically. Is it because he hasn't gone out to society, or is he really delicate? He doesn't understand the hardships and human feelings of society, and finally he still wants to break up with me. I really don't understand.

Moreover, taking a step back, he is also with me, not with my father. It is not even to break up with me, but to be together. It has been almost two years.

Is there any way I can change his mind and get back together with him again? Because I really love him very much. Although that day was not pleasant, I don't want everyone to blame him either. Although he doesn't know what etiquette is (it may be that the family conditions are good, and he is used to it), he is usually very good to me, and people are also clean. The social circle is also clean. It is just that compared with others, it is slightly insufficient.

I know he has been wronged, and I just want to get back together.

Re - state once again.

I'm not being irresponsible. I just haven't found a good opportunity to speak. When I was arguing with my parents, I tried my best to say that they were not right, and also lost my temper with them.

Our family's conditions are not bad. My annual income is between 700,000 and 1.2 million yuan. What kind of family can't buy several houses under the child's name?

I don't know much about my boyfriend's family, but I know that there are several houses under his name. (But I don't have any idea about his family's house at all, and I have never mentioned adding my name. We are in a relationship during the school period, which is relatively pure. Before being together with him, I don't know that his family is very rich, and with our family's level, it is not a big problem for me to buy a house in my boyfriend's city. So there is no economic problem between us. I don't have any idea about his family's money at all. I want to get back together because this person is the type I really like.)

I really want to get back together.

My family is also not bad, a proper middle - class family. Because my father is doing business, it is that kind of market - oriented business, so there will be this kind of character. Even if it is a match, it is also a match.

I just hope that everyone can give me some suggestions on how to get back together and subsequent remedial measures.

I feel that our family's conditions are not bad, and I'm not bad either. I graduated from the same coastal undergraduate school as my boyfriend. Then I took a gap year, and my boyfriend directly went to graduate school. Moreover, when he chose to go to graduate school, he also said that it was because I stayed and didn't go to other schools. I feel that he loves me very much. I also love him very much. I just don't understand why he has such a big reaction. Up to now, he hasn't given me any feedback, nor given me a chance to explain. His mother is also cold to me now. I always feel that there may be problems in communication.