Children Say Irritating Things - How Can Parents Respond to Avoid Scandals?

Children sometimes say irritating things, from an early age, when they learn that a word has great power, giving rise to various reactions; How Can Parents Respond to Their Toddler's Irritant Remarks? Although tempting, the most important rule is: do not show irritation and do not respond like a child, getting into a fight with the little one!

From the moment he develops his language, from 2–3 years onwards, the young child will learn that he can influence others through his words, so he will sometimes say some irritating words, others even painful, looking for a certain reaction from his parents. 

At other times, however, the young child simply expresses his frustration and anger with words that have the gift of making his parents jump

What irritating things can children say and how can their parents respond?

"I want that now!" The words themselves would not be irritating to a parent, if not repeated indefinitely, in a weeping or angry tone… And unfortunately, when you respond calmly to the child, explaining why he can not now have what he wants, you only hear: "I want now, I want now"!

The first and most important rule: do not give in to these "I want now" - tell him how firmly you can "no" and either ignore the child, letting him know that his words will not convince you, or try to distract his attention to something else.

"So why"?! Every parent is irritated by these little child's "whys" and it's so tempting to answer just "because that's what I said"! Which will only give birth to a "yes, why?" or even a real nervous breakdown in the child… How can you answer: trying a small active listening exercise, expressing what the child is feeling: he would like to change, then explaining that everyone has unpleasant responsibilities that he fulfills.

"It's mine" - the little child goes through a phase in which he wants almost anything he sees, even objects that would have no logical attraction for him - he can take a dress from his mother screaming "it's mine"; can take a box; a decoration; an old toy; a kitchen utensil…

Almost anything, and just answering "no, it's mine" is not the best reaction. What can be done? If the object the child is taking belongs to someone else, explain it to him and ask him how he would feel if you took a toy from him; if there is an object in the house that is not suitable for him, take it firmly, simply saying "no".

"I don't want to, what are you going to do to me? You have nothing to do with me. " Among the most irritating words spoken by the young child - and the tempting answer would be a threat of any kind "I send you to your room", "I won't let you on TV anymore" etc. But sometimes these threats cause a child to it will challenge you even more, so it may be helpful to try to find out why he refuses to listen to you; most of the time, the little child just wants to feel that he has little power, that he also has a say. Therefore, you can offer options: "Do you want to" or do you want to "?"

"I never get anything!" Irritating words for parents who do so much for the child, but he is still not satisfied, wanting more and more… Try, instead of telling him how much he has received and how much he has, to find out if there is another reason why the child he is angry with you. If he complains or screams angrily that he is not receiving anything, his emotions may come from the feeling that he is being ignored or ignored, not just from the fact that you have denied him something.

"That's not fair!". The little one will scream that nothing is right if it doesn't suit him. Bedtime, TV show, food offered, going to kindergarten, toys he (doesn't) have - nothing is right if he doesn't like it! How can parents respond to these irritating words: also through active listening exercises; What does the child want to convey through this "wrong"?

Frustration - that's why it might be helpful to tell her, "I see you're upset now, and I'm sorry; but these are the rules and we all live by rules that I follow, even me; I don't like to either ".

"I'm bored, let's do something!" A busy parent can be extremely irritated when he hears his child complaining about boredom - you'd rather put him to work so he doesn't get so bored!

However, the parent must offer the child activities that will keep him busy - physically or intellectually, avoiding boredom, which can lead to hours of watching TV; moreover, offer him activities to do on his own, without having to sit next to him for a moment, teaching him to keep himself ugly, without screaming as soon as he has nothing to do.

"I want Aunt X to be my mom!" / "Daddy, why isn't she like Y's dad?" / "You're sick, I don't like you anymore." And other irritating (and often painful) words that the little child says to his parents. Again, it's not the words themselves that matter - it's the child's emotions.

Therefore, a parent should try not to be too affected by these irritating remarks, but to look for their root - the child is angry, frustrated, or sad and snarls (does not mean he believes what he says). Refrain from child responses: "I don't like you at all if you behave like that at all", "I want another child too" etc.! Just tell her that these words make you feel sad and that she needs to think about what she said, calm down, and then talk calmly to you.

"How old you are!" / "How fat you are" - and other rather irritating remarks of the little child; he says what he sees naively, not yet knowing how to control his thoughts and rules of good manners. The little child does not want to be offended at all when he makes such remarks, he only says what he observes.

You can calmly tell him that some words make people feel bad ("how would you feel to hear that?"), So when such words come to mind, it's best not to say them.