BIG SECRETS IN MARRIAGE

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Secret 1:
Everyone you marry has a weakness. No spouse is perfect, the one who comes in all shades of perfection is the one who is alive in your spouse, and that person is God. So if you focus on your spouse's weaknesses you will never get the best out of his or her strength.
See, the couples that last are the ones who magnify each others strength, rather than the weaknesses.

Secret 2:
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future you are building together.

Secret 3:
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Fight, Fight, Fight until the enemy steps out of the ring. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse through the ups and the downs.

Secret 4:
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. Two marriage can look IDENTICAL, but can never be EQUAL. I hope you are hearing me? Never compare the love level from another marriage with yours. Learn to be patient, and keep sprinkling water where you want the green grasses to grow.

Secret 5:
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
🔥Ignorance
🔥Prayerlessness
🔥Unforgiveness
🔥Third party influence
🔥Stinginess
🔥Stubbornness
🔥Lack of love
🔥Rudeness
🔥Laziness
🔥Jezebels
🔥Delilahs
🔥Disrespect
🔥 And Cheating.

To keep your marriage you have to be willing to fight DIRTY with prayer and hardwork. A happy marriage is not for couples who want to be CLEAN.

Secret 6:
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

Secret 7:
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of a raw materials for you to mould into the person that you desire. Do you remember that God is a Potter? And as He is so are you too? This means that you are also a creator just like Him, and God is counting on your creative ability. Build each other up through prayer, love and Patience.

Secret 8:
Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. As much as lies in you, choose with God’s help to remain married.

Secret 9:
Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, your marriage will remain permanently unavailable to dispense joy!

1. VISION AND PURPOSE: 🏅

Ask a man about his vision and purpose for his life. If he can’t answer gets offended, he’s not ready. A man doesn’t need a partner without a purpose or assignment. Women might try to give men a vision, but it’s something he must possess on his own. Only when he has a clear vision should he seek a woman to help him realize it.

2. COMMITMENT READINESS: ♥️

If a man says he wants a committed relationship, believe him. No matter how well you cook, clean, pamper, or please him, if he’s not ready for a relationship, nothing you do will change that. If he says he’s only looking for friends, take his word for it.

3. RESPECT FOR WOMEN: 🫂

Ask him about the women in his life—his mother, sisters, and exes. If he uses derogatory terms like “bitch,” it’s a red flag. If his mother’s opinion will always outweigh yours, that’s another warning sign. He must be willing to leave the past behind to truly commit to you.

4. PATIENCE WITH INTIMACY: 💋💞

A good man won’t pressure you for s*x when you first meet. You are not a car to be test-driven. If a man wants to test your body, emotions, and feelings upfront, it’s a sign to walk away.

5. ROLE MODELS: 💯

Every good man has someone he looks up to, someone he fears disappointing. If he says “no one,” be cautious—he might be too proud to be a good leader. The person he admires speaks volumes about his character.

6. SEEING YOUR TRUE WORTH: 💏

When asked what he sees in you, it’s okay if his first answer is about your appearance, men are visual. But he should also recognize the deeper qualities that make you who you are. He won’t protect what he doesn’t value, so he must see and appreciate your true worth.

7. KEEPING PROMISES: 🗣

A good man keeps his promises. If he consistently fails to call when he says he will, cancels dates, shows up late, or plays emotional games, take note. These are clear signs he doesn’t value, love, or care about you.