Becoming a Stepmom

I’ve done a lot of hard things in my life. But nothing compares to becoming a step-parent.

Being a step-parent is up there with the hardest. My stepchildren are the most amazing, caring and intelligent humans you’ll ever meet.

This is one of the most important questions you need to ask yourself. The journey of a stepmother, generally, is a journey of love.

Whether you become a stepmother to a child who is 3 or to a child who is 10, they're going to be a major part of your life.

Your stepchildren will ask a lot of you, take a lot from you, and you will get to know them pretty well over time.

You'll wash their underwear, feed them, and do all the things parents do for their children. But you may not get that "parent credit".

Caring for a child even when you may get no credit for doing so is the ultimate test of character. Checking your ego at the stepmom door can take years of practice and experience but learning not to take everything so personally will become a phenomenal asset down the road.

On top of trying to be good step mom you are challenged with judgements by the mommy clubs, strangers, and past life. Not only will they try to take away your status and any other credits you have earned as a parent. But they degrade you for not being biological mom or having your own. I have always been a mature woman that’s how I was raised. Don’t react to fools and you won’t become one of them.

But after becoming a stepmom to two children and enduring all the challenges that have come along with it. I can happily say that it’s the best decision I have ever made. I learned to be patient, being selfless, age doesn’t define maturity, being kind even when one doesn’t deserve so, putting yourself in someone else's shoes, being able to be reasonable. Above all I have learned to practice self-care mentally and emotionally, accept my flaws and realized that I will never be their Father or Mother. And that’s okay.

I want to be someone they come to and be safe around, they can talk to and most importantly someone they trust. When they tell yell “I love you” everyday when I drop them off school. Truly that’s all that matters to me.