What to text him when he pulls away over text

Hey,

It's Mehul. Think of me like the older brother you never had—someone who’s seen both sides of love, heartbreak, and those silent conversations we play out in our heads.

I know you’re here because something doesn’t feel right. He used to text back quickly. He used to check in. He used to care… or at least, it felt like he did.

And now?

Your phone’s silent.

The texts are shorter.

And you’re left wondering what you did wrong.

Please… take a deep breath. You're not alone.

Let me talk to the part of you that’s tired of overthinking, that just wants clarity—not games, not silence, not walking on eggshells.

When He Pulls Away, Your First Instinct Is to Chase

I get it. That feeling in your chest when he stops replying the way he used to… it’s not just disappointment—it’s panic.

So what do you do? You overthink every word.

You reread the last message you sent.

You wonder if you said too much, or too little.

You start to ask yourself if you should double-text… maybe just a cute meme to “check in”?

But here’s the truth:

Texting him more won’t pull him closer.

Silence from his side isn’t always about you—it’s about him.

And if he’s truly worth your love, then he’ll come back when he’s ready. But you? You deserve peace now.

So… What Should You Text Him?

Let’s keep it simple, strong, and real.

You don’t need to play games. You don’t need to pretend.

Just say this:

“Hey, I’ve noticed some distance lately. I care about you and our connection, but I also respect myself too much to chase someone who isn’t sure. If you’re going through something, I hope you figure it out. Take care.”

That’s it.

No guilt.

No pressure.

No drama.

It lets him know:

You’re not needy—you’re aware.

You’re not desperate—you’re dignified.

You’re not trying to fix him—you’re protecting your peace.

Why This Text Works

Because it shifts the energy.

Most women (understandably) get caught in the loop of trying to “win” him back when he pulls away. But men don’t respond to pressure—they respond to loss. To absence. To realizing, “Damn… she’s not begging. She’s walking.”

This message speaks powerfully—without screaming. It holds your self-worth like a flame in your hand.

Men don’t forget women who value themselves.

But What If He Doesn’t Reply?

That’s the part that hurts, right?

I know you’re hoping he’ll read it and instantly feel sorry, suddenly remember how amazing you are, and come running back.

Sometimes he will.

Sometimes he won’t.

But either way—you win.

Because you showed up for yourself. You didn’t shrink. You didn’t settle. You spoke with grace and strength.

That matters more than any text back.

You Are Not “Too Much”

If he’s pulling away, it doesn’t mean you’re too emotional.

It doesn’t mean you’re overthinking.

It doesn’t mean you love too hard.

It means he’s emotionally unavailable or he’s not ready for what you offer.

And you know what?

That’s his loss.

There are men out there who will read your long messages with curiosity, not judgment.

Who will reply with care, not confusion.

Who will pull you closer when you feel unsure—not disappear into silence.

But for you to meet that kind of man, you have to stop pouring your soul into people who don’t even dip their fingers in your ocean.

A Gentle Truth You Might Need Right Now

Sometimes, when a man pulls away, it’s not a test… it’s a sign.

A sign that he’s not ready.

A sign that he’s emotionally distant.

A sign that he’s not in the same chapter of life as you are.

And no amount of waiting, wondering, or “perfect texts” will change that.

You deserve to feel chosen—not tolerated.

You deserve affection without confusion.

You deserve love that stays.

If This Message Spoke to You…

There’s something I found that has helped many women finally understand the silent gap between how men say they feel… and what they truly desire deep inside.

It’s called His Secret Obsession, and it’s not some cheesy love trick. It’s about unlocking that part of a man’s heart that wants to commit, wants to show up, and wants to stay.

👉 Discover what truly captures a man’s devotion – not through pressure, but through deep emotional connection.

If your heart’s been aching for clarity… give this a read. You deserve love that doesn’t pull away.

And hey—whatever happens next—please know this:

You are not broken.

You are not unworthy.

You are not hard to love.

You are growing.

You are healing.

You are remembering who the hell you are.

I’m proud of you for being here.

—Mehul 🖤