The great value of failure

In 1954, almost all Brazilians agreed that the Brazilian football team must be able to win the championship in this World Cup. However, events are difficult to predict. In the semifinals, Brazil unexpectedly lost to France, and ultimately failed to bring the golden trophy back to the motherland.

Football is the soul of Brazil, and the players understand this better than anyone. On the way back, they were extremely remorseful and felt shameless to face the elders of their hometown, knowing that they would face abuse and ridicule from the fans.​​

However, when the plane landed at the airport of the Brazilian capital, they saw a scene that was far beyond their expectations: the Brazilian president and tens of thousands of fans stood silently at the airport, and a particularly prominent banner was erected in the crowd. ,It says:

"If you fail, keep your head high, everything will pass!"

Faced with this scene, all the players burst into tears. Neither the president nor the fans spoke, but silently watched the players leave the airport. Four years later, the Brazilian football team lived up to expectations and won the World Cup for the Brazilian people.​​

"Everything will pass!"

Everyone is eager to succeed. But failure, failure is the mother of success, this is an old saying, but there are few people who can accept failure willingly.

I also had a hard time dealing with failure many years ago. It suffered an unexpected defeat that shattered the confidence and pride that had been built up over the years. If there was a bottom line in life, I would admit that it was. One day, I got an email from a student in my class at the time with a line like, "You are the best teacher in our minds, and what we want to tell you is that you are not Almighty, you don't have to do everything, you can fail, you're just an ordinary person."

You can fail.

What a good sentence, revealing the secret, each of us is just an ordinary person, no one has super powers, can avoid failure and succeed all the way. Since failure is an inevitable hardship on the road of life, accepting it calmly is the best gesture.

How to accept? The first thing to understand is why we are afraid of failure. Because it is painful, there is no doubt about it, but in fact, when encountering failure, the most painful thing is often not the failure itself, but the sense of helplessness, self-blame, and Doubt about yourself. That is to say, the blow of failure to the heart is the source of pain. If you want to accept failure, you must start from the cultivation of the heart. Realize that you are just an ordinary person with a natural right to fail. If you can't let go of excess self-esteem and pride, you will only make yourself fall into the quagmire of helplessness and self-blame, thus missing the opportunity to grow yourself through failure.

Failure is actually an opportunity. It hits us and makes us fall from a height to the ground or the abyss, but at the same time, it also allows us to look at the mistakes we have made on the road with a humble attitude by virtue of our humble status at this time. , the missing ability. The more humble you are, the more you tend to see.

After accepting failure, it is time to fight back against failure. Learn from failures, reflect on your own shortcomings, then improve your combat effectiveness and ability, go out again with a more perfect attitude, and return all the things that your failures gave you. The sense of satisfaction and achievement brought by the Jedi counterattack is really So attractive.

One of my teachers told me such a case: a student who is self-righteous, likes to make trouble in class, never does homework seriously after class, but his grades have always been good. In a major exam, this student actually failed. For this student who has always been proud and self-confident, this was undoubtedly a heavy blow, and he fell into an inextricable situation, which could not be recovered for a long time. Fortunately, with the persuasion of teachers and classmates, I finally got out of the state of depression, and began to work hard, and my academic performance improved by leaps and bounds. There are actually not a few outstanding students who have grown up like this. They have experienced failure, accepted failure, and seized the opportunity to recognize their own shortcomings and improve themselves from failure. For them, failure is a better time. 's transformation.

At that time, because of the words of the students, I came out of the bottom and said to myself that after going through this ordeal, no matter what problems I encounter on the road in the future, I am not enough to fear. People who are human have the right to fail, accept failure with common sense, and those who come out of failure are often more combative and more likely to succeed.