Setbacks are bankbooks, not broken bones

If you observe carefully, you will find that the overwhelming self-help books are dealing with such two words - frustration!

Motivational series of books is the best-selling books in recent years, for a time, almost all publishers flock to, the author or editor every day are also in the mind to design propositions, painstaking search arguments, looking at the entire book market, inspirational "cake" bigger and bigger!

Throughout this kind of books, the deeds of certain celebrities are always described as "miraculous", most of them are clearly close to the edge of death, suddenly set up a steely belief in the heart, and finally, with this belief, from the edge of the fate of the cliff to the glory of life. All of this, when these authors talk about the setbacks of the protagonists, they will without exception spend a lot of ink to increase the suffering index of the protagonists, as if the suffering is not deep, success is not very imposing.

Psychologists say today is a motivational age. This is true, but inspirational also needs to pay attention to the method. Blindly pouring "coptis soup" into others' hearts, filling people with bitter not self-support, and finally giving people two POTS of "honey" can not be said to be not allowed, but at least it is lack of skills, so rote techniques are lacking some "witty sense".

To convince people with the frustration of "bitter feelings" is like filling people's stomachs by eating chaff alone, blindly pursuing the result of satiety, and ignoring the process of enjoying the pleasure of chewing.

Frustration is a poetic "horse stone", rather than a "stumbling block" tainted with bad luck; We "play" with frustration, playing "heartbeat", not "palpitations"; After encountering setbacks, we are in the "wrench wrist" with setbacks, rather than being "broken" by setbacks.

Mr. Yu Qiuyu once visited a wise old man in Jordan. Her name was Du Meiru, the daughter of Du Yuesheng, a famous tycoon in Shanghai at that time. Du Meiru is the eldest daughter of Du Yuesheng's fourth wife, she received her mother's strict education in her early years, in her mind, in addition to her surname Du, she never dreamed of being Du Yuesheng's fame, despite the passage of time, she has experienced more than 50 years of homeless life, but she has always been able to overcome numerous hardships, and later, she opened a Chinese restaurant in Jordan.

When Du Meiru talked about her life, she told Mr. Yu Qiuyu such a story. Du Meiru said she was involved in a car accident when she was young, which broke her bones and left her bleeding in multiple places, leaving a scar on her face. After the scars, her husband was worried about her, worried that she would fall into anxiety. However, Domeru was not as fragile as her husband thought, and she joked to herself: "The injured place on her face has become a big dimple!"

Mr. Yu wrote in the article: "I looked at this suddenly serious old couple, I thought, they actually have a lot of trouble, but they have long adhered to a principle: all scars as dimples."

This is the most perfect interpretation and explanation of frustration in any book I have ever read. Because, Du Meis such as the treatment of "frustration" attitude, is a kind of "after the three armies to open the face" type of free and easy, rather than "without a cold to the bone" type of restraint. This open-minded attitude is to regard all setbacks in life as a "poetic passbook", rather than a "frustrated fracture"!

(In fact, his success was not so much a Nobel Prize in chemistry as a six-word compliment from someone who had scorned him!)