Not Everyone Who’s Fun to Be Around Is the Right Person for You

There was a time when I thought friendship was defined by laughter, shared secrets, and the countless moments spent together. I believed that if someone made me feel happy, if I enjoyed their company, if I felt included—then they were meant to stay in my life. But time has a way of unveiling the truth, of showing us that not everyone who brings joy is meant to bring peace, and not everyone who makes you laugh is meant to stay by your side.

God removes people from our lives not because He wants to see us in pain, but because He knows what’s best for us.

And sometimes, what’s best for us is walking away from those we once held close. We often hold onto people simply because they’re familiar, because they bring excitement, or because we fear being alone. But the truth is, not all “fun” friendships are real friendships. Not all people who treat you well on the surface have your best interests at heart. Not all smiles are genuine, not all kindness is sincere, and not all friendships are built to last. There are people who will make you feel like you belong yet will betray you the moment you turn your back. There are friends who will make you laugh yet will laugh at you when you’re not around. There are companions who will walk with you through good times yet will disappear the moment things get hard. There are those who will make you feel special yet will only keep you close because of what they can gain from you.

And then, there are friendships that feel different—not always loud, not always filled with endless conversations, not always the ones that make you feel the most entertained, but the ones that bring you peace. The ones that make you feel safe. The ones that correct you when you’re wrong, stand by you when you’re weak, and choose you even when you have nothing to offer. Those are the friendships that truly matter.

We live in a world that often prioritizes superficial connections over deep, meaningful relationships. Social media can make it seem like the number of friends or followers we have defines our worth. But in reality, it’s not about how many people surround us; it’s about who truly stands by us. The right people will not just show up for the celebrations but also for the struggles. They won’t just make you feel good in the moment but will help you become a better version of yourself over time. And then, there are friendships that feel different—not always loud, not always filled with endless conversations, not always the ones that make you feel the most entertained, but the ones that bring you peace. The ones that make you feel safe. The ones that correct you when you’re wrong, stand by you when you’re weak, and choose you even when you have nothing to offer. Those are the friendships that truly matter.

So stop holding on to people just because they make you laugh. Stop assuming that just because someone is nice to you, they are meant to stay in your life. Not all friendships are meant to last, and not all people who bring joy are meant to bring you growth. Learn to differentiate between what is temporary and what is real.

Life is too short to surround yourself with people who only care when it’s convenient. Choose depth over distraction, sincerity over surface-level interactions, and true companionship over fleeting fun. Because at the end of the day, the friendships that matter most are not the ones that simply make you smile but the ones that make your heart feel at home.

Let go of those who are only there for the good times and make room for those who will stay through the storms. Because the right people—the ones who are truly meant for you—will not just make you happy. They will help you grow, bring you peace, and love you in ways that laughter alone never could.