Know how to let go, will be happy

Read a speech story.

A Harvard professor picked up a glass of water and asked the audience, "Guess how much this glass weighs?"

"50 grams", "100 grams", "125 grams" everyone answered.

"I don't know how much it weighs, but I'm sure people don't feel tired holding it at all."

The professor said, "Now, my question is: what happens if I hold it like this for a few minutes?"

"Nothing," everyone replied.

"That's good. What if you hold it like this for an hour?" the professor asked again.

"The arm will be a little sore," an audience member replied.

"That's right. What if I hold it like this all day?"

"The arm will definitely become numb, maybe the muscle will spasm, and it will inevitably have to go to the hospital." Another audience member said boldly.

"Very good. Does the weight of the cup change for any length of time while I'm holding it?"

"Won't."

"Then why is the arm holding the cup sore? Why does the muscle spasm?" the professor asked after a pause. "I don't want my arm to be sore and my muscle spasm, so what should I do?"

"It's easy. You should put the glass down," replied one audience member.

"Exactly," said the professor. "Actually, pain in life is sometimes like a cup in my hand. It doesn't matter if we bury the pain for a few minutes, if you think about it for a long time, it can eat away your mental strength. . Over time, you may be on the verge of collapse. Then you won't be able to do anything."

I don't know if there are such people around you. They are sullen and frowning all day long, and they have a face that has been bullied by life. But think about it carefully, it is not an irreversible event that makes them tangled, painful, and unhappy. , but those trivial things.

There is a saying that is very good, life is nothing but life and death. But most people, understand this truth, but still can't do it.

And the reason why we are easily trapped in one person, one thing, one game is actually because we lack a little wisdom. In fact, as an adult, there are many disappointments in everyone's life.

Too big to find a suitable job, can't buy a house, can't talk about objects.

So small, because of a small mistake, I was scolded by the leader for three hours. I finally got to the bus, but I couldn't get on...

What finally breaks you down may not be that you can't bear all the bad results, but that you can't let go of your bad emotions.

Optimistic people are not the lucky ones who have never experienced the world, have a smooth journey, but are able to correct their mentality even if they are in the quagmire, and they can bear what they can bear, and bear what they can bear, but they cannot change Give up if you want, and work hard if you have room.

Of course, such an attitude towards life cannot be learned overnight.

It requires you to read thousands of books, travel thousands of miles, read countless people, and constantly cultivate and cultivate your mind in the face of setbacks, and finally cultivate a more peaceful, open, and complete self.

Voltaire said: It is not the mountains in the distance that make one tired, but the grain of sand in the shoe.

Usually a person who has been nagging for a long time because he lost a few dollars, missed a stop, will affect his mood for the morning, even if his tongue touches his teeth, he will say that he is unlucky. They don't care about the few dollars. It's not a few minutes wasted, it's their narrow-mindedness, that's why they compete with themselves.

In fact, in one's life, there will be many unsatisfactory, unsatisfactory and unsatisfactory things. But it is these large and small experiences that allow us to learn to better precipitate, enrich and perfect ourselves.

The past is a foregone conclusion, the future, we cannot predict, we can only live in the present.

Work hard, live your life with heart, be kind to all the people around you, just take one step at a time, and go down steadily, calmly and stably.

You will find that there is no one who can't be forgotten, and there is nothing that can't go through. If you are wrong, you will be wrong. If you have passed, you will pass. Grasp the present, which is eternity.

Learning to let go is not only not thinking about the past, but also not afraid of the future.

Learning to let go is both forgiving others and reconciling with yourself.

Learning to let go is not only taking on and accepting, but also starting over and starting again.

Maybe when we encounter bad people and things, we will instinctively feel sad, lost, resentful, or even suddenly hopeless.

But after crying, suffering, and suffering, you must learn to face it, solve it, and let go.

More times, it seems that all external factors are bothering, entangled, and making things difficult for us, but in fact, we are setting ourselves up as prisons.

Sometimes we don't care about, do not force or force, not because we don't care, but because we know that there is still a long way to go. If we stay in the swamp for too long, we will get deeper and deeper. It is better to withdraw in time.

After all, we live because we want to meet more cherished people, do things more worthy of pursuit, and enjoy more beautiful scenery, not because we want to be trapped in thorns and fight, entangle, and torture ourselves for a lifetime.

The more people who know how to let go, the happier they are.