How to Make Him Obsessed With You Over Text – Without Losing Yourself

Dear little sister,

I see you.

You’re staring at your phone again, aren’t you?

Typing, deleting, overthinking.

Waiting for a reply that takes too long.

Trying to sound “cool” when all you want is to feel wanted.

You’re not crazy. You’re not needy. You’re human.

And loving someone from a distance... hurts in a way most people will never understand.

But let me tell you something as your older brother — not the kind who lectures, but the kind who’s seen both sides of this game...

There is a way to make a man crave you, think about you, miss you, need you... even if you're miles apart.

And no, it’s not about playing mind games.

It’s about reminding him — without even touching him — that you are unforgettable.

Let’s talk. Just you and me.

You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to feel real.

Men aren’t obsessed with women who try to impress.

They’re obsessed with women who feel like home.

When a guy is far away, he craves emotional anchoring — even if he doesn't know how to say it.

So don’t try to be the “cool girl” who never texts first.

Don’t try to sound like someone else.

Be you — the girl who laughs at silly things, who sends voice notes when she’s excited, who texts at 2am just to say, “I couldn’t sleep, and I thought of you.”

That kind of realness? That’s rare. That’s what he remembers when the world gets quiet.

The secret: Don’t chase him. Pull him in emotionally.

Most women text like they’re trying to keep his attention.

But the ones who make him obsessed?

They don’t try to hold on.

They draw him in.

How?

Not with “perfect replies” or sexy selfies (though those have their place).

But with something deeper:

A message like: “I heard this song today and thought of that night we stayed up talking. Do you ever replay that moment in your head?”

Or: “I don’t need you to say the right things. I just like knowing you’re there.”

These words touch something in him — his emotional memory.

And when you live there, he doesn’t want anyone else.

Give him space to miss you… but leave a trail back to you.

Here’s the thing most women get wrong in long distance:

They text too much. Constantly available. Always on.

That doesn’t create desire — it creates comfort.

And comfort without tension leads to boredom.

What should you do instead?

Disappear sometimes. Not to punish. But to allow space.

Let him wonder:

“What’s she up to?”

“Is she thinking about me?”

“Why do I miss her more today than usual?”

And when you return — come back with warmth. With softness. With something that makes him feel again.

You don’t need to be “more.” You just need to be seen.

If a man is going to be obsessed with you, let it be for who you actually are. Not some version of you you think he’ll want.

Don’t shrink to fit his mood swings. Don’t beg for breadcrumbs.

Instead, ask yourself:

“If I stop proving my worth… will he still choose me?”

And if not — let him go. Because obsession isn’t just about making him want you.

It’s about making you remember your own damn power.

There’s more to him than what he shows… but there’s more to you, too.

You know what's funny?

Sometimes the more a man pulls away, the more we try to figure him out.

But sometimes, sis…

The answer isn’t in his silence. It’s in how much of yourself you’ve given away trying to fill it.

If you really want to understand what makes a man stay — what makes him crave you when he’s not even near you —

then maybe it’s time to stop guessing and start knowing.

There’s a powerful truth behind male desire that most women never get taught.

It’s not manipulation. It’s not tricks.

It’s something deeper — almost primal.

If you’re tired of chasing, wondering, second-guessing...

And you’re ready to finally understand how to trigger his devotion instead of begging for attention,

you’ll want to read this.

It changed the way I see relationships — and it might just save yours.

Last thing, sis…

Don’t forget: you are not hard to love.

The right man will feel your energy through a screen.

He’ll read your words like they’re poetry.

He’ll crave your mind as much as your body.

And until then — let you be the one who never forgets your own worth.

You don’t need to make him obsessed. Just remind him what he can never replace.

With you always,

– Mehul

The brother who sees your worth, even when you forget it

P.S. Want to dive deeper into what truly makes a man stay, chase, and cherish you — even from miles away?

Then read my next letter here.

Because you deserve more than texts. You deserve love that stays.