Dating Rules for Women: What No One Tells You About Men, Love, and Your Worth

I know you're tired.

Tired of guessing what he's feeling. Tired of giving too much and still feeling like you're not enough. Tired of following every “rule” they throw at women—text back late, act busy, don’t show too much emotion—only to end up more confused, more hurt, more alone.

So let’s sit down for a minute.

Not as guru to seeker. Not as a man who has it all figured out. But as your older brother. As Mehul—someone who’s seen both sides of this dance between men and women. And someone who can tell when a woman is breaking her own heart just to keep someone else's love.

Let’s talk.

Rule #1: You don’t have to earn love by shrinking yourself

If he pulls away, you try harder. If he goes quiet, you start blaming yourself. You think: “Maybe I was too needy… maybe I asked for too much… maybe I should have played it cool.”

No, sis.

Love was never supposed to feel like a job interview where you're constantly proving your worth.

A man worth having won't make you feel like you're too much. In fact, when you're truly yourself—unfiltered, soft, strong, wild, honest—the right man will feel relieved. Because real men aren’t afraid of women with depth. They crave them.

Rule #2: Men respect boundaries more than availability

Every time you cancel plans to meet him last minute…

Every time you say “it’s okay” when deep down it’s not okay…

Every time you forgive him just to keep the peace…

You’re teaching him how to treat you.

I’m not saying be cold. I’m saying be clear. Be warm, but don’t be a doormat. Say what hurts. Say what you need. Say “no” when your gut says “this doesn’t feel right.”

Men don’t fall for women who are always available. They fall for women who make them rise to meet their standards.

Rule #3: His silence doesn’t mean your silence

So many women wait in emotional agony. Days go by without a reply. His energy shifts, and you spiral. You replay everything—“Did I say too much? Was I too emotional? Should I have kept it lighter?”

But sis, if you feel neglected, you don’t have to suffer in silence.

Speak. Ask. Tell him how his distance makes you feel. Not in a blaming way. But in a brave way.

And if he still doesn’t care…

If he brushes it off or makes you feel “too sensitive”…

Then maybe it’s time to stop trying to win him back, and start asking why you’re trying so hard for someone who doesn’t see your heart.

Rule #4: A man doesn’t “get ready” by breaking you

One of the most damaging lies women are told: “He’ll come around when he’s ready.”

No, sweetheart. Read that again.

A man who is emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or hurting you is not just “not ready.” He’s showing you who he is right now.

You are not a rehab center. You are not his mother. You are not his emotional training wheels.

You are a woman. With love to give. And he doesn’t get to prepare for his future wife by wounding you in the process.

Rule #5: Learn what truly awakens a man’s deep desire

Most women never get to feel chosen. Not just liked. Not just wanted. But chosen—by a man who looks at them like they are the missing piece of his soul.

Do you know why?

Because most women are told to focus on outer tricks—play hard to get, post thirst traps, be “low maintenance.”

But the truth is deeper.

There’s a part of every man that longs to feel like your hero. Not because you’re weak, but because you trust him enough to let him show up for you. This speaks to a deep instinct in men that we often don’t talk about.

And if this touches something in you…

If you're tired of being the one who chases, the one who fixes, the one who always ends up wondering why not me?…

Then maybe it’s time to stop doing more, and start understanding what truly moves a man from interest… to obsession.

If you’re ready to stop chasing and start attracting the kind of love that feels safe, powerful, and real—read this: Unlock the Love and Devotion You Deserve

It changed the way I see what men really want—and it just might change your love story too.

You're not hard to love

Let me leave you with this.

You are not “too much.”

You are not “too emotional.”

You are not “too sensitive.”

You are exactly as you were meant to be—soft, strong, intuitive, emotional, caring.

The world tries to harden women like you. But don’t let it.

There’s a man out there who will be softened by your softness. Moved by your truth. Devoted to your heart.

Until then, protect it like it’s sacred. Because it is.

And when you’re ready, here’s something that helped many women I know rediscover their power in love: How to Make Him Obsessed With You in a Long Distance Relationship

With love,

Mehul

(your older brother who’s seen too many good women forget their worth)