"Three not male" and "three high male" which is more popular with women?

What are the criteria for Japanese women to choose a spouse?

If it is in the present, rich, handsome, high education may not be the advantage, cherry blossom girl more important is not the so-called "rich and handsome", but "three not male": not violent, not in debt, not philandering. Meet the above 3 points, even if the male height of only 165 cm, but also does not affect the female in their favor.

Of course, Japan is not the beginning of this, in the 1980s, Japanese women's selection criteria or "three high males": were high education, high income, and high height, where the high income is an annual income of more than 10 million yen, equivalent to 600,000 yuan, and to know that this is still the income of the 80s of the last century The high height is more than 180 cm, you know, the average height of Japanese men is only 169.5 cm, so in the 80s of the last century, "three high male" belongs to a proper rarity, and we usually say the same as the rich and handsome is a scarce commodity.

However, after only a few decades, Japanese women's selection criteria from "three high male" to "three not male", what factors are affecting this?

In the 1980s to 1990s, Japan's economy is very good, it is the flowers are blooming, cooking oil period, and at this time, Japan has not entered an aging society, the society of young people, the number of elderly people need to support less, people will spend a lot of income on consumption and savings; urbanization construction also let more and more people from the countryside into the city, the international environment is better, also conducive to exports.

All this has stimulated the Japanese economy to continue to take off, but also let Japan enter the "bubble", housing prices rose, again and again, even 1 Tokyo land price, you can buy the entire United States.

The income of the staff at that time is also very high, and college students have not graduated from the major companies have been in a mad rush, and even the major companies are begging around to work, if you go to the interview, not only will the company will reimburse the round trip fare, but also send you some small gifts.

The question about the interview is even more symbolic, basically, as long as you go, you will pass the interview. After passing the interview, the company will also lead the interns to travel, and go to fine restaurants, major companies also prepared the staff gym and swimming pool, and some even give high-class suits and watches, etc.

The economic situation is very good but also lets women in the selection of a spouse, and the selection criteria are the "three high male", high education, high income, and high height. Later also added a "non-firstborn", because the firstborn usually lives with their parents, to bear the burden of heavier responsibilities, and the pressure to produce offspring.

But the three high males are, after all, a minority, there are several kinds of men in society who will become women's spare tires:

car driver men: specializing in sending girls out, taking the opportunity to send girls out as their opportunity to approach the goddess.

gift-giving men: give the goddess a variety of gifts, and the girl accepts the gift, and will not agree to be his girlfriend.

Buy single male: to put it bluntly, the girl went out shopping, the man bought the bill.

Why choose the three tall men?

The main reason is that at that time, Japan a more popular full-time housewife, after all, one person at home to make money can support the whole family, and the economy form and good, surrounded by a variety of wealthy myths, so girls in the choice of a spouse, but also more important economic base.

However, with the bursting of the Japanese economic bubble, the three high men were abandoned by Japanese women, and then the "three low men" were favored by women.

The so-called "three low men" are

Low profile: women first, no machismo.

Low risk: low-risk occupation, have a legitimate and stable job.

Low bondage: not in the constraints of the woman, personal life and household chores are not dependent on the wife, together with the raising of children, etc.

The three low male criteria can be seen from the Japanese women in the selection of a spouse, education, income, and height are no longer a must, more important to the attitude of the man.

The main reason for this shift is that the social environment has changed. After the burst of the bubble economy in Japan, employees are no longer employed for life, wages do not increase with age, and various benefits are being reduced, so men's income has decreased sharply.

But on the other hand, because Japanese society generally values men more than women, and advocates the model of "men taking care of the outside and women taking care of the inside", this was fine during the bubble era, because women were doing full-time wives as a profession. But after the bubble economy burst, coupled with the improvement of women's social status, women are also moving into the workplace and can support themselves with their work, and no longer rely on men.

However, the status of women in Japan at that time is still low, in the workplace men do not do the work, and all had to be given to women to take care of; at home, after the husband is not involved in the work, the wife has to take care of the family, women have to take on the task is heavier.

So "three high males" become less welcome, but rather those who are willing to share household chores with their wives, willing to give priority to women males more favored by women.

The competition with the "three low men" is the "three good men", that is, will help cook and bring up children, not cheat, and know how to save money. The personality match, language humor, that is, compared to the material, the spiritual world is richer, but also willing to participate in household chores.

After the "three low men" and "three excellent men", "three, not men" began to rise strongly, the so-called three not men: not beaten, not in debt, not cheating. In comparison with income, height and education are not valued by women.

Why is this?

This is because people find that it is too risky to find a husband to change their original life and class as opposed to finding a man with low risk, that is, no violence applied, no debt, and no cheating.

When choosing a husband, neither the man's financial situation nor his situation matters, even if the other party is only 165 cm tall, as long as he does not beat people, does not have debts, and does not cheat, are considered by Japanese women to choose a spouse.

From "three tall men" to "three, not men", Japanese women in the selection of a spouse drop the standard, again and again, this is in addition to the Japanese women's improved status, can generally earn money to support themselves, but also with the continued economic downturn in Japan, so that women from the past want to rely on marriage to change their lives, to now want to maintain The women are now trying to maintain their current standard of living instead of trying to change their lives by getting married.