To the Man Who Approaches Random Women

Friday night I was hanging out with some of my friends in a parking lot. Yes, we were sitting outside at 8pm on the concrete ground of a parking lot of a restaurant in front of our cars. We were sitting criss crossed talking about life (with a few drinks in us I may add) when a middle aged man came up to us. He told us he couldn't find his way to his car when he saw my friends Texas Tech sweater and saw his car a little ways behind her. He swayed back and forth and proceeded to talk to us about how all the girls at the bar inside wanted to only hook up, but we 3 sitting outside in sweaters and jeans were a sight to see. Not knowing what to say or do, we sat and let it happen. He squinted his eyes as he told us his life story about Texas Tech and his son living somewhere in Dallas, though he didn't know where exactly. He openly shared that he lived a great life and was wealthy... before we slowly gave him hints to leave.

So, to the man who approaches random women in the parking lot:

You may be drunk, but think about what time we live in. We don't live in a safe world anymore and there are way too many situations that go on a daily basis that cause women to not want to be approached by a guy at 8 o'clock at night in the middle of a parking lot. Honestly, you can be young or old, we wouldn't care.

You may think that telling us that we don't want to hook up is a pick up line, but you are very much wrong.

When the women you approach are sitting in the parking lot far from the restaurant and behind a car, wouldn't you assume that we don't want to be approached by ANYONE?

That being said, it was sad hearing your story because though you are drunk, swaying and unable to find your car (apparently), you told us about how you HAD a wonderful life and that you are very much wealthy

I do not know his situation but I hope that he telling us about his wealth and past happiness was not his way to 'pick up a woman'. It only makes me wonder what happened and if his materialism caused him to be this way. Who knows, but he walked to his car just as alone as he had most likely approached the restaurant after a long week of work.

However, this made me think of a whole different story, same in many ways but different in so many other ways:

Two summers ago, I was on my way to work. I was living in a different city and didn't have my own transportation to work so I rode the public transportation buses. Not wanting to draw attention to myself or really even make an effort to talk to anyone on my way to or from work I always wore headphones and read a book while waiting for the bus to come at the bus station.

Well, one day I was sitting where I always sat waiting for bus 520 to pick me up at approximately 7:50am at the station when an average looking skater looking guy walked up to me. Being judgmental or unsure (I honestly couldn't tell you which), I was a little hesitant as to why he was approaching me. I took my headphones and he looked right at me, yet not all in my personal business, and said: " You are the most beautiful person I have seen all day."

Almost speechless, I said thank you. He smiled and walked away.

To the man who approaches random women with headphones in and their nose in a book:

You turned such a little act into such a memorable moment that I will not quickly forget.

Granted, it was relatively early in the morning so you probably hadn't seen many people but regardless, you spoke your mind and I was truly flattered.

You didn't make me feel uncomfortable or made it seemingly inappropriate so I apologize for the unsureness or judgement as you approached.

You came and left in a way that it hadn't even registered exactly what happened before it was all over.

You didn't make me feel sad or sorry for you. You made me feel better about myself and put a smile on my face.

Lastly, to the man who approaches random women...

There are two ways to go about it, and I have seen both. I don't want to feel sorry for you, nor do I want to hear your life story. If you are to approach a random woman, have a purpose and be done with it. It doesn't have to be a compliment, but in this day, approaching a woman can be a very wrongly impressionable act. But to those who are brave enough to do it correctly, continue it. We need people like you in the world to bring smiles to peoples faces and let someone know they are beautiful or noticed for even just a few minutes.