thoughts on marriage

TO THINK OF IT WHAT IS MARRIAGE......

I can't say anything for sure but just the idea scares me. Let's start from the basics. I don't have much of a big family but I have seen different types of marriages. closeup.

1) marriage with love. this one showed me that in a relationship just love, only love is not something you can live by. there is love, love like non-other, love that has been made through all the fights and conditions but what about the pain and suffering that came with it? what about all those tears and screamings? all those fights and hurtful words. yeah there is love and for that, they move on but what I see is toxicity. it's like there is happiness one day and sadness the other and the cycle continues. Isn't that just way too cruel? I personally don't want to live such a life. this couple shows me the beauty of love. the care they have for each other is exceptional. the way they care for each other, the way they are concerned for each other, the way they sacrifice for each other, the way they look at each other, the way they smile at each other. It's just way too beautiful, to the point that I carve to find my love like this but not at the expense of living in such a marriage where to keep up under the pressure of society and finances, you break, physically and mentally. you lose yourself and start losing your sanity. you give in your best just to hear some taunts at the end of each day. you work beyond your capacity to make ends meet only to result in more fights and shouting at night. things are messed up. I don't know maybe i don't know the beauty of love yet that these sacrifices seem not worth it or maybe being blessed with a family that treats me like a princess gets me thinking why should I leave this life full of unconditional love for marriage where odds of getting treated are less.

2) marriage with no financial issues, and society pressure, both have great careers hence no inequality and competition and even a tint of love yet the distance between them just put me off. I don't know their relationship closely to judge them but sorry I don't want such a marriage as well.

3) marriage with respect, both bidding by their duties, caring and protecting yet with no love.

4) marriage with sacrifice, distance and living being compressed. just weird isn't it?

see there are reasons I say I don't want to marry. As I age with marriages of my friend's siblings or in a few years of my friends, my opinion puts them off. and with time they don't share such news with me. it's my opinion for myself I'm not imposing it on others but myself. if my friends who honestly are great people and awesome friends cant understand me this much you expect me to live by the thought or marry someone over this assurance that that guy would understand my thoughts? how is that even possible?

For me marriage. Ah, where do I even begin? It's a beautiful and intricate tapestry woven with threads of love, commitment, and shared experiences. Allow me to take you on a journey through my own emotional narrative of what type of marriage I dream for.

For me, marriage is a lifelong adventure embarked upon with a beloved partner. It's that exhilarating feeling when you find the one who understands you, accepts you for who you are, and complements your strengths and weaknesses. It's like discovering a missing piece of the puzzle, someone who fills your life with joy, warmth, and unwavering support.

When I think of marriage, I envision a deep emotional connection that transcends the ordinary. It's a bond forged in trust, built upon a solid foundation of love and mutual respect. It's a sanctuary where I can be vulnerable, knowing that I am cherished and protected.

Marriage is a journey of growth and self-discovery. It's a mirror that reflects our flaws and challenges us to become better versions of ourselves. It's not always easy, but it's in those moments of struggle that we learn the true meaning of compromise, patience, and forgiveness. Through the highs and lows, we find strength in knowing that we have a partner by our side, ready to weather any storm.

In marriage, there's a dance of shared dreams and aspirations. It's about envisioning a future together, setting goals, and supporting each other's ambitions. It's celebrating each other's successes, and holding hands through the trials and tribulations that life inevitably brings. Together, we create a tapestry of shared memories, woven with laughter, tears, and unforgettable moments.

Mariage is also a haven of comfort and solace. It's the feeling of coming home to someone who knows you better than anyone else. It's the warmth of a gentle touch, a reassuring hug, or a simple glance that speaks volumes. It's finding solace in the arms of your partner during life's most challenging times and celebrating life's blessings together.

Above all, marriage is a profound expression of love. It's an ongoing commitment to nurture and cultivate a relationship that is as delicate as a flower, yet as resilient as a mighty oak. It's choosing to love every day, even when the initial passion fades, and discovering new depths of affection as the years pass.

In my narrative, marriage is a tapestry we co-create, a sanctuary we build together, and a journey we embark upon hand in hand. It's a partnership filled with love, growth, and unwavering support. And honestly, if this is not what I'm getting in marriage why should I get married then?