Is the Mid-Life Crisis (MLC) a myth or a reality? This, too, must pass...

I turned 42 in August and didn't give it much attention, but as the year went on, I felt like a dissatisfied 12-year-old. What used to work for me in terms of possibilities flying my way has ceased to exist. What the hell is going on, I wondered. So, as is my will, I did some research and discovered that I was having a mid-life crisis (MLC).

The changes that many MLC people go through, which are often misinterpreted, might lead to major decisions that blunder.

The desire for change and a conviction that the grass is greener on the other side can lead to major shipwrecks and the loss of a few crew members. Even the smallest shipmates.

So we MLC passengers yearn for change, conjuring up visions of change that may or may not be in our best interests or within our budget.

The problem is that there are so many options for change. Positive and negative, yin and yang, good and bad, and even non-action and action are all examples of black and white thinking. In the wider consciousness of Universal Law, everything is in motion, with or without your permission.

I can only say that I've been led to a point in my MLC that I believe is the most difficult I've ever encountered.

Do I reject the adjustments because they are difficult and hence painful? Or will I be given a challenge that is only what I THINK would be painful and unpleasant?

I commit to the challenges, and yes, they are all for the greater good of becoming a more honest version of myself.

MLC provides passengers with the opportunity to realize their deepest desires and take effective measures toward realizing them. In (mysteriously) the years I have to live on earth, answer the age-old questions of what am I doing here and what my true mission is.

It's all well and good to share this insight, but there are times when I'd rather be trekking throughout the world!

Changes must occur within me, rather than being forced from beyond. Then all I'm doing is avoiding the truth and the MLC's gift.

The following are a few things I've had to adjust to living with the constant feeling of inner tension and restlessness:

• I hired a Life and Business Coach.

• I've been more interested in my 9-year-personal old's development and conducted a study into what he requires of me.

Knowing that this phase lasts roughly 5 years, I try acceptance, and as a lifelong control freak, I'm learning to let go, loving and caring for myself, and being selective about who I allow associating with me.

If you're on this road with me, you're a child of the 1960s, and the values of that era are ingrained in us. But something changed; the 1970s and 1980s, which were so alien to our ideals, made me feel like I was born at the wrong time. I am not a member of the ME GENERATION; rather, I am an early Indigo child who believes in the utopian mantra of Love and Peace for All.

Whether or not you are sensitive to astrology, someone I know and love can attest to the influence of the planets on our entire system(s) of inner and outward experiences. A sensitivity to astrology is left with confirmation and a knowing sense of safety as to the lessons to be learned and the beneficial outcomes as a result when we are aware of what our problems and cycles are while they are happening and with a little insight into the future.

Resistance to growth is the death knell, and it is the source of suffering.

Worse, we are CONFUSED, double-minded, and insecure in every manner.

Without the knowledge I've received through, yes, of course, astrology, I can only say that my MLC (Mid-Life Crisis) was Confusion.

My proof has come from observing and remembering how others dealt with the years 39-45.

There's enough on the internet to support your MLC and perhaps provide some respite from what's going on here.

By the way, there are some fortunate people who have passed through these years completely unaffected by an MLC; I sometimes envy them, but are they out of touch or escaping through major changes outside themselves, justifying their selfish actions?