How to Attract and Understand Women

Contrary to popular belief among a lot of men, showing sexuality openly is part of what makes a man attractive to women.

You are a sexual being, and it is fine to portray that to a female when you're interested, but with limits.

Exuding sexuality is more of an internal process; it just happens because you are attracted to a woman, and it is not always a conscious effort.

For example, if you are straight-up telling a woman that she's hot because you are trying to provoke a reaction from her, you are making external proclamations of your sexuality. Most times, this won't get you far.

It would be far better to naturally:

Show that you find her hot because you desire to be physically close to her

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Show that you find her hot by being captivated by her and her only

These actions don't necessarily require a verbal response, which shows you're not being needy of a reaction; you are just being the sexual man you are. That's how to attract women.

There's a major difference between being sexual and being perverted as well. Perversion is always needy.

A guy who spits out some crude remark about a woman's body is looking to be rewarded by the satisfaction he gets by seeing her reaction or just by saying what he's thinking aloud.

A guy that makes an uninvited attempt at grabbing a body part, is not just needy but practically desperate.

If either example is something you've tried, take a time-out, and reexamine what it means to be a natural, not-needy sexual creature.

1 Be Confident

Do the research, read the women's magazines, and look at the studies. One thing that almost always comes up at the top of the list of what attracts women is confidence.

Pure and simple, women are more drawn to a man who is confident in who he is, what he has to offer, and what he can achieve.

2 Be kind

In psychology, a theory known as the halo effect describes the human tendency to assume one aspect of a person's personality as a proxy for who they are as a whole being.

Being perceived as kind can easily have an effect on every other characteristic about who you are.

For example, a kind man can be assumed to be:

• A hard worker

• A mindful lover

• A giving person

In psychology, a theory known as the halo effect describes the human tendency to assume one aspect of a person's personality as a proxy for who they are as a whole being.

Being perceived as kind can easily have an effect on every other characteristic about who you are.

For example, a kind man can be assumed to be:

• A hard worker

• A mindful lover

• A giving person

3 Make her laugh

A good sense of humor is thought to be attractive from both sides of the fence, but your sense of humor is far more important than hers.

4 Be an active listener

Women often speak more than men. They use more words and communicate in deeper, more heartfelt ways, oftentimes using more words to verbalize.

As a man armed with this knowledge, you should automatically know two things:

1. Women are more attracted to men who know how to actively listen.

2. Women expect a man who can communicate effectively with them during a conversation.

You may not talk as much as her, but what you say needs to matter. Work substance into your words, think before you speak, and be attentive to what she says so you can reply in a valuable way.

5 Practice Being A Non-Needy Man

Needy—it is such a simple term and we all think we know very well what it means, but do you know that neediness in a man is an all-out turn-off for most women?

The needy man doesn't know how to accept defeat, isn't willing to accept any level of criticism or rejection, and needs a woman to validate him.

A needy man is so much this way that he will be dishonest, put on a mask, and practically dance a jig in front of a woman in order to get her [positive] attention.

Sadly, what you get can be anything but positive or good. Even if it works like a charm in the beginning, the woman will likely drop you at the first sign of your true colors.

6 Invest In Yourself

In your effort to learn how to be an attractive man, you have to learn how to invest in yourself.

It can be a tough journey, especially if you are always the type to externalize your needs.

In other words, if you are always looking for your personal wants/needs/desires to be met by others, you haven't invested in yourself.

As a man, you come hardwired genetically to be fine on your own.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys spend so much time looking to find that person to complete them that they have no idea how much they can accomplish on their own.

7 Be A Man Of Status By Defining Your Purpose

Women are attracted to men of some form of societal status.

This is fact, and it offers the illusion that you can't attract a woman if you don't have the big job, fancy car, or a lot of money.

But that's far from actuality.

If you are the confident man who works really hard at his nine-to-five and knows what he brings to the table, you have status in the eyes of a female.

8 Don't Be Afraid To Be Vulnerable

Vulnerability is tough for a lot of men, but this ability to morph into an actual human who does need someone can be incredibly attractive to a female prospect.

Guys tend to take pride in being the macho man who needs nothing from anyone, so it can be hard to lower that facade and let her see you as anything else. But being vulnerable on some level shows her that you trust her on a deeper level.

There's no room for true vulnerability in the beginning, like on a first date—this can be too much. You will feel when it's time to show her your more sensitive side, and she will respond in a positive way.

9 Mind Your Manners

It's a golden rule of interacting with a woman, and many guys just don't take having manners seriously. What attracts women is not so much that you know how to say "please" and "thank you" (even though these things are important).

10 Let Her See That You Can Take The Lead When Needed

It is a well-known fact that women are attracted to men who have good leadership qualities. Women look for a man that knows how to lead, not dominate—don't ever confuse the two.

A man that is a good leader will:

• Consider how his decisions affect others before making them

• Be confident enough to make decisions when given the opportunity

• Make a concerted effort to finish anything he starts

• Be willing to sacrifice for the greater good of a situation or relationship

11 Stay In-Tune With The World, Educate Yourself, And Be Informed

Ask any woman what makes a man attractive, and somewhere on her list of priorities will be a man that has something valuable to add to a conversation.

When you first meet someone, it's not logical that you will immediately start discussing every personal attribute about yourself.

So, what is it you talk about?

You talk about what's happening in the world, your insights about certain topics, and other attributes of life.

If you spend all your time wrapped up in football, drinking games, or just yourself, it's easy to end up out with a woman and have no idea what to talk about.

It's never wise to dominate the conversation or come off as some know-it-all who has no room for anyone else's perspective.

But, you should be able to connect with meaningful input to offer.

12 Show Her You Can Be A Family-Oriented Man

Not every woman you meet is looking to go all-in and start creating a family unit, and some may never want children at all.

Nevertheless, a man who is capable of being family-oriented attracts most women. So this is something to keep in mind about how to attract women.

You don't necessarily have to go cuddle some babies on your first date. Just be open to discussing family life, children in your life, or family dynamics.

Likewise, show her you can treat her as a priority just as you would if she were your wife.

13 Know When To Be Forward With A Woman

A perceptive man will attract women. Females appreciate a guy that knows how to perceive what she wants but be careful that you're not listening to your own ego when you make a move