He Always Cries

He always cries

I met this guy about three months ago, he fell in love with me pretty fast. He said it was love at first sight.

The whole thing happened so quickly, I can’t remember the last time I felt so loved.

The truth is, I’ve battled with insecurities all my life, and I often find myself in toxic relationships. This new guy is loving, caring, attentive, he cooks, he cleans, he’s one of a kind.

The only thing I can’t handle right now is:

He cries all the time. He cries when he’s angry, cries when he’s sad, he cries all the time.

It’s actually annoying.

I have no problem with men showing their emotions and connecting with their feelings, but I can’t stand it when people can’t put their emotions in check. There’s a time and place for tears, and it’s not sitting in a hotel lobby.

He burst into tears in a hotel lobby after hearing some bad news, but it just wasn’t the right time for an emotional outburst. It reminded me of a child, a little kid screaming for mummy.

After further analysis and learning more about my new guy, I discovered that he’s a mummy’s boy. He was so spoiled as a child that any time he doesn’t get his way, he bursts into tears, or has an emotional outburst.

It’s a bit much for me because I don’t cry easily. Yes, I cry, but I don’t cry on a daily basis. He cries pretty much daily. It’s exhausting.

We’re both going through a tough time right now and I’m holding it together, and he’s just breaking down at every opportunity. It’s so draining, and as much as I’ve fallen in love with other aspects of his character, I can’t stand this. His emotional outbursts are scary because I don’t feel like I’m with someone who could protect me if something happens.

He breaks down when he can’t find the right orange juice in the store. I mean, maybe there’s a deeper issue going on, but when I’ve asked him, he says it’s nothing, and that he’s always been like that.

Right now, I’m not sure what to do, because on the one hand, I’ve fallen for him, he’s a great guy. But on the other hand, when he cries, I feel like screaming at him. The tears and constant whining and moaning, it’s too much.

I’ve been doing some research about how to handle an emotional man, and honestly, I don’t think I have the energy for it. Here’s what I discovered about how to handle an emotional man online:

1. Don’t try to “fix” his feelings

Men are often socially conditioned to suppress emotion, so when they do express it, they’re often deeply vulnerable. The worst thing you can do is treat it like a problem to be solved or minimized. Instead, just be present. Let him feel.

Say things like:

“I hear you.”

“That sounds really tough.”

“You’re allowed to feel that way.”

Being a safe space matters more than having the perfect words.

2. Avoid using his emotions against him later

If he opens up and later hears his words thrown back at him in a different context, even as a joke or critique, trust breaks. Emotional safety is built through consistency and confidentiality.

3. Give him space—but not abandonment

Some men process emotion internally first. If he withdraws, it doesn’t always mean he’s shutting you out. Gently let him know you’re available when he’s ready.

Example:

“I understand you might need space. Just know I’m here when you’re ready to talk or be around someone.”

4. Let him be emotional in his own way

Not every man cries or talks things out immediately. Some channel emotion through action, silence, music, working out, or even humor. Respect his coping style, even if it doesn’t look like yours.

But also—if his emotions start showing up as anger or shutdowns, encourage healthy expression:

“I can see you’re upset. It’s okay to talk to me when you’re ready. I want to understand.”

5. Don't take emotional outbursts personally

If he’s emotionally overwhelmed, he might say things in the moment that sound sharp or reactive. Hold your boundaries, but don’t automatically internalize it.

Ask:

“Is that how you really feel, or are you just overwhelmed right now?”

This helps separate the moment from the man.

6. Set boundaries without shaming him

Emotions are valid—but so are your boundaries. If his emotions spill over into disrespect, be firm, not cruel.

Try:

“I want to support you, but I also need to feel respected when we’re talking. Let’s take a break and come back to this.”

7. Encourage emotional literacy

Support him in finding language for what he’s feeling. If he struggles to name it, offer gentle prompts:

“Are you feeling more frustrated, sad, or anxious right now?”

“Do you want to vent, or do you want advice?”

This builds trust and emotional growth.

Final Thought:

Handling an emotional man doesn’t mean babying him. It means honoring his humanity—because everyone deserves emotional grace. The more we normalize men expressing emotions without judgment, the healthier our relationships become.

After reading all this information about how to deal with an emotional man, it’s just too much for me to take at this point. I know, men should feel safe to express themselves emotionally, but when you’re with a man who cries constantly, it’s extremely difficult to deal with. I’m always walking on egg shells around him because I don’t know what will trigger another emotional outburst.

Are you in a relationship with an emotionally expressive man? How do you handle it?