Get a Guy to Like You

Do you want a guy to be completely crazy about you, the way you are about him? While you can't force someone to feel a certain way, you can definitely put your best foot forward and give his feelings a chance to develop. Here are some helpful hints on how to charm a guy, while still being true to yourself.

Focusing on You

Be confident.

You've got to show this person how awesome you are, but first you need to know how awesome you are. Build up your self confidence if it's sorely lacking. Now, this doesn't mean you have to be loud, boisterous, arrogant, chatty, or forward. It just means getting to a place where you feel comfortable in your own skin.

• You can be secure, sweet and humble all at the same time. But be prepared to come out of your shell. Guys like confident, interesting people who lead their own lives.
• The only guys who like insecure people are the ones who are insecure themselves and want to dominate another human being. And who wants to be with a guy who wants a person to feel bad about themselves, or who wants to tell you how to be all the time? That's not healthy, and you deserve much better.

Look your best.

Without being fake, make an effort to look your best around the guy you like. Guys are visual creatures so looking your best will simply spin the odds in your favor. But most importantly, when you look your best you'll feel your best - giving you the confidence you need to let your awesome personality shine through.

• A little make-up can go a long way. You don't need to color-by-number your face, but mascara opens up your eyes, lip-balm enhances your smile, concealer can cover any small insecurities, and tweezers could really help nightmare eyebrows. Just wear what you are comfortable with.
• Dress in clothes you feel comfortable in. Don't squeeze yourself into a body-con skirt or tight jeans if that's not your usual style. A well-fitting pair of pants and a top that brings out the color of your eyes is a safe but striking combo.
• Smile a lot - research has found that people become more attractive to others when they smile, so flash those pearly whites as often as possible to look prettier, as well as friendlier and more approachable.

Make your presence known.

A guy can't fancy you if he doesn't know you exist. If you haven't caught his eye yet, then get him to notice you. Make sure you show a little interest and drop small hints that you like him.

• Most guys won't ask you out because they're afraid of getting shot down. You've got to walk before you run, right? Say "Hi". Say "Good-bye". Give a little wave. When he reciprocates, you'll know that you have his attention.
• Introduce yourself somehow and make conversation. It's nearly impossible for someone to like you if he doesn't get to know you, unless he "likes" you for all the wrong reasons.

Have a good sense of humor.

Having a good sense of humor makes everything better. This doesn't mean you should be a giggling fool, laughing at everything that crosses your path, but you should try not to take yourself too seriously and always be ready with a laugh, especially when your crush is around.

• If you're too serious or straight-faced all the time, he may find you intimidating and unapproachable, which is the last thing you want.
• Express your sense of humor in your own way. Some people are witty and sarcastic, others can tell hilarious stories, and many people just do quirky things and poke fun at themselves.
• No matter what tickles your sense of humor, it's much easier to like someone who you can have a good laugh with once in a while. If you don't find something to laugh about together, then maybe you'll discover that you don't like him after all!

Make it clear you're available.

A guy is not going to hit on you if he thinks you're taken, so it's your job to make it clear that you are single and ready to mingle.

• If you have a Facebook account and he's not already in your friends list, invite him; just make sure your status is set as single!
• You should also make it obvious in other subtle ways, such as hanging out with your friends in a place where you know he'll be, dropping subtle hints about not knowing who to go with to an event, etc.
• Letting your friends in on the situation is probably a good idea - they can help strategize to get the two of you together, and also diffuse any awkward situations. They also know where you stand on the relationship front and won't start falling for him themselves.