DNA

Having a child who isn't biologically yours doesn't make you any less of a natural parent. Being a real parent is in the Heart, not the DNA.

Grand rising to all my fellow readers and writers. Today, I would like to ask you a serious question, and I would love for you to take the time to think about it because most people will automatically rush to answer, but this question is more for your personal reflection than anyone else's. The question is, do you really care? Do you really care about how you treat others around you regardless of their situation? Do you care about the other person's feelings, or are you simply saying words you think the person wants to hear? Do your intentions match what you are saying to others, or are you simply trying to determine if the person is doing worse than you?

All these questions are sound and reasonable to ask because, for me personally, it took me years to find out the truth about who and what I was. For years, I struggled with abandonment issues, and I was extremely insecure about myself. Yes, I was adopted, and yes, I had adults who took care of me, but the problem with that was this, I had one amazing, caring, warm-hearted parent, while the other parent was mean and hateful towards me, so of course, as you can see this indeed did cause me a lot of mental, emotional, physical and psychological problems as I got older.

I was taught that pain was a love language and that if it didn't hurt me, then it was not love. I had no idea that this person that I thought was supposed to look out for me and care for me was a monster hiding in plain sight, and being that I was the child, no one was ever going to listen to me, let alone believe me. The funny thing about being a parent is that you must know your Heart and not worry about someone else's. If you know you love to take care of kids, then take good care of them. Don't just pretend to take care of them to get a monthly paycheck from the government. Trust me when I tell you that kids will never forget everything that you have done to them over the years. Now, being that I was adopted, I am not saying that I remember every single detail of my life, but I remember how that person made me feel, and I never forgot, so be mindful of how you treat kids because when they get older, you may find yourself regretting how you treated them in the future.

As a child, I never understood why adults would say things like, what goes on in this house stays in this house. Will as I got older, I found out, and the truth is this, all predictors want to keep you and everyone else around you silent for fear of their dirty little secrets getting out, and of course, they already know that what they are doing is wrong, but also know that they will lose control of everything and everyone if you chose to speak out about their bad behavior.

So, back to my original question, do you care about me, or are you simply saying things you think I want to hear? I know what it feels like to not have both my biological parents, and I know what pain and suffering feel like, so if you make the choice to approach me on any negative bull shit, take my word for it, you will be called out. So, please do not come play in my face acting like you give a damn about me and mines when we both know that I know the truth about you just simply by your actions already. I see you and not parts of you but all of you, so remember, when you come for me on any level, make sure that you have your house in order before you come checking me about a damn thang. Happy Thanksgiving, everyone, and remember to ask yourself, do you really care?