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Loving Someone Who’s Still Healing

Sometimes love isn’t about holding on tighter — it’s about knowing when to hold space.

By Adeyemi sholapePublished 9 months ago 1 min read

Introduction:

No one walks into love unscathed. We all carry pieces of our past — heartbreaks, betrayals, childhood wounds we rarely talk about. But loving someone who’s still healing is a different kind of love. It’s soft, patient, and often… heartbreaking.

1. They Won’t Always Know How to Receive Love

When someone’s been hurt, love can feel foreign — even threatening. Compliments may be dismissed. Kindness might be questioned. You’ll find yourself having to prove your heart is safe, over and over again.

2. They Might Push You Away When They Need You Most

Healing doesn’t always look graceful. It can look like silence. Distance. Overthinking. Sometimes, the walls they built to protect themselves will keep you out too.

3. You’ll Need to Know the Difference Between Support and Self-Sacrifice

Loving someone through their healing doesn’t mean losing yourself in the process. You can be a safe place without being the solution. It’s not your job to fix them — only to stand beside them as they do the work.

4. Patience Will Be Your Love Language

There will be slow days. Triggers you don’t understand. Emotional spirals that seem to come out of nowhere. You’ll need grace — not just for them, but for yourself.

5. Healing Isn’t Linear — and Neither is Loving Them

They’ll make progress, then regress. You’ll have beautiful moments followed by confusing ones. It’ll feel like a dance: one step forward, two steps back. That doesn’t mean it’s broken — it means it’s real.

6. You’ll Have to Let Them Heal on Their Own Terms

You can’t rush healing. You can’t love someone into wholeness. Sometimes the best thing you can do is give them the space they need — even if it hurts.

Conclusion:

Loving someone who’s still healing is brave. It’s choosing to love not just who they are now, but who they’re still becoming. It’s not easy — but it’s honest, raw, and deeply human. And sometimes, that’s the most beautiful kind of love there is.

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