Life of a Man

A man has to face countless 'uncertain situations' every day. He has to make numerous decisions daily and keep his temper in check.

After leaving home, he waits for a rickshaw. If he doesn’t get one, he has to walk. If he does get a rickshaw, he has to haggle over the fare for a while. If he takes the bus, he worries about whether he’ll get a seat or not. He argues with the helper over the fare. If the driver keeps braking frequently to pick up more passengers, he has to shout at him.

At the office, there’s one task after another. Some tasks have to be explained to others, while others he has to handle himself. If a task isn’t done properly, he has to send it back; if his own work isn’t good enough, he gets scolded.

For those who are businessmen, they have to make decisions constantly. Will the price of that item increase? Should I buy it in advance? The customer wants it on credit—should I agree? The total is 1722 taka, but they want to pay 1700—what should I say? The dealer is coming, and I have to pay him, but I don’t have that much cash.

After work or business, he has to go to the market. The price of chicken has increased by 20 taka per kg. The fish market is also in bad shape. Which fish should I buy—big fish or small fish? If I don’t buy today, can I get it tomorrow morning?

From the moment a man steps outside his home, he has to make decisions every second. Should I do this or that? Should I do it now or later? Every day is filled with countless uncertainties.

I might get a rickshaw, or I might not.

I might get my due payment back, or I might not.

When buying fish, I might like it, or I might not.

If I bump into someone on the street, I might argue with them, or I might not.

Think as a man—how many commands you have to give your brain every second. You’re a calm-minded person, but someone comes and says something that ruins your mood.

A man has to deal with too many external factors. He doesn’t know whether his boss will be in a good or bad mood today, whether the rickshaw puller or bus conductor will ruin his mood or not.

After spending 10–12 hours outside, talking to so many people and managing so many things, what does he expect when he returns home?

He hopes to find some peace at home—at least for a little while. There’s no uncertainty here.

Most women misunderstand men at this point.

When a man returns home exhausted, he expects someone to welcome him.

He can drink a glass of sherbet or water by himself—but what if someone hands it to him?

For some reason, after the husband comes home, women often get busy with household chores. They start cutting vegetables, begin cooking, sweep the house again, or check the grocery bag against the list to see what’s missing.

I believe it’s one of a wife’s key responsibilities to give her husband the first 15 minutes of her time when he returns home after a long day of work.

You’ve been doing a lot of work at home all day—that’s undeniable. But rushing to the kitchen as soon as your husband enters the house isn’t the right thing to do at that moment.

Giving him water, handing him his lungi/pants and T-shirt before he asks, asking if he’s eaten or wants to eat, checking if he needs hot water for a bath (for those who do)—if a wife can do these things properly, the man will be satisfied with this welcome.

His mood cools down. Home feels like a peaceful place.

After working outside all day, let a man have at least one hour to himself when he returns home. There’s no need to remind him in that one hour about taking out the trash, missing two items from the grocery list, or paying the rent tomorrow.

A woman doesn’t know in that one hour how much stress her husband has faced all day or what his mood is like. Slowly, the husband will share what happened—today, this and that occurred.

I never consider the relationship between husband and wife to be competitive. It’s not about who did more or less work. Rather, it’s about how they respect and value each other.

Just as a husband must respect his homemaker wife and appreciate her work, a woman must also appreciate her husband’s efforts.

These writings are based on reality—please don’t take them to heart.

Stay well, stay healthy,

And remember the God.