5 Lessons I Wish I Knew in My 20s

Life-changing advice I learned the hard way — that you can learn now.

When I look back at my 20s, I feel a mix of emotions. There was excitement, confusion, ambition — and a lot of mistakes. It’s a time when we try to figure out who we are, what we want, and where we’re going. But truthfully, I wish someone had told me a few simple things back then.

If you're in your 20s, consider this a letter from your future self — someone who’s been through it, messed up a bit, learned some hard lessons, and now wants to help you skip the painful parts.

Here are 5 honest lessons I wish I knew in my 20s — and I hope they help you as much as they would’ve helped me.

1. Time is More Valuable Than Money

When I was younger, I chased money — always thinking that having more would make me feel better. I worked extra hours, took every job I could, and forgot to rest. But what I didn’t realize was that time is something you never get back.

You can always earn more money. But you can’t rewind the clock and get back your health, energy, or youth. Use your 20s to build a future, yes — but don’t forget to enjoy the present too. Spend time with your family. Travel if you can. Do things you love. Don’t wait until you’re older to start living.

2. Failures Are Not the End — They’re Part of the Journey

In my 20s, every failure felt like a disaster. When I didn’t get the job I wanted or a project failed, I thought it meant I wasn’t good enough. But now I know: failure is not the opposite of success — it’s part of success.

Every successful person has failed many times. What matters is what you learn from it. Mistakes help you grow. They teach you things books and school never will.

So don’t be afraid to try. Start that blog. Apply for that job. Launch that small business. You might fail, yes — but you’ll be smarter, stronger, and more prepared for the next try.

3. Not Everyone Deserves a Place in Your Life

In your 20s, you’ll meet many people — some amazing, some not so much. I used to think I had to keep everyone happy and be friends with everyone. But I learned the hard way that some people will only drain your energy.

It’s okay to walk away from toxic relationships. It’s okay to say “no.” You don’t have to stay connected to people who bring stress, drama, or negativity into your life.

Surround yourself with those who support you, inspire you, and bring peace. Your time and energy are valuable. Spend them wisely.

4. Take Care of Your Body — You Only Get One

When we’re young, we feel like we’re invincible. I used to eat anything, sleep late, and skip exercise — thinking I’d always have the same energy.

But your 30s will remind you that your body keeps the score. What you do now affects your future health.

Start small: drink more water, walk daily, eat more real food, get enough sleep. Your body will thank you later. You don’t need to be perfect — just consistent.

5. Don’t Compare Your Life to Others

This might be the most important lesson of all.

In your 20s, it’s easy to feel behind. You’ll see friends getting married, traveling the world, or buying homes — and you might wonder if you’re failing. But remember this:

Everyone has their own timeline.

Your story is not supposed to look like anyone else’s. Just because someone else is ahead in one area doesn’t mean you’re behind in life. Maybe you’re growing in ways they can’t see.

Social media makes it worse — we only see the highlights, never the struggle. So stop comparing. Focus on your journey. Trust your pace.

Bonus Tip: Start Saving and Investing Early

Money may not be everything, but managing it well matters a lot. If I could go back, I’d start saving and learning about money much earlier. Even saving a small amount every month adds up.

Learn about budgeting, avoid unnecessary debt, and understand the basics of investing. Your future self will thank you.

Final Thoughts

Your 20s are a special time. You’ll make mistakes, feel lost, and change a lot. But that’s okay — it’s part of growing.

If you remember anything from this article, let it be this:

Don’t waste time.

Don’t fear failure.

Don’t keep toxic people around.

Don’t ignore your health.

And don’t compare your path to others.

Live fully, learn constantly, and be kind to yourself along the way.

Because one day, you’ll look back — just like I did — and realize you’ve come a long, long way.