Do Not Cry Over Spilt Milk

Some People Never Try to Change

Some people believe that the traits they have been nurtured

on, which they are recognised by and which have left a certain

impression about them on the minds of others can never be

changed. They surrender to this thought, just as a person would

surrender to the fact that he cannot change his height or skin

colour.

But Change is Easier Than You Think

On the other hand, an intelligent person thinks that to change

one’s nature can perhaps be easier than changing his clothes.

Our nature is not like spilt milk that cannot be scooped up again.

Rather, we are always in control of it and there are certain ways

in which we can alter it, and even the way we think!

The Story of the Spanish Businessman

As told by Ibn Hazm in Tawq al-Hamamah

Ibn Hazm mentions in his work Tawq al-Hamamah a tale of

a famous Spanish businessman: There was competition between

him and four other businessmen and as a result, they disliked

him. They were therefore determined to aggravate him.

The First Encounter

One morning, he left his house to go to his workplace, wearing a

white shirt and turban. One of the four businessmen met him

on the way. He greeted the Spanish businesman, looked at his

turban and said, “How beautiful this yellow turban is!”

The businessman said, “Are you blind? This turban is white!”

He replied, “No, it is yellow! It is yellow, but it looks good.”

The Second Encounter

The businessman left him and moved on until he met the

second of them. He greeted him, then looked at his turban and

said, “You look handsome today! Your clothes look fine! Especially this green turban!”

The businessman said, “Actually, the turban is white.”

“No, it is green,” he insisted.

He replied, “It is white! Go away from me!”

The Third Encounter

The businessman walked on, talking to himself, and every

now and then looking at the flank of his turban to make sure

that it was indeed white. He reached his shop and opened up the

lock. Meanwhile, there came to him the third of the four businessmen and said, “How beautiful this morning is! And especially

your clothes, they look fine! And your beautiful blue turban only

adds to your good looks!”

The businessman looked at his turban to ascertain its colour, then rubbed his eyes and said, “Dear brother! My turban is

white!”

“No, it is blue. But the important thing is that it looks good,

so don’t worry!” the man said, and left, as the businessman began

to yell after him saying, “The turban is white!” as he looked at his

turban to ascertain its colour once again.

The Final Straw

He sat in his shop for a while and couldn’t take his eyes off

his turban. Meanwhile, the fourth person came and said, “Greetings! MashaAllah! From where did you buy this red turban?”

The businessman shouted, “My turban is blue!”

He replied, “No, it is red.”

The businessman said, “No, it is green! Actually, no, it is white!

No, it is blue, or black!” He then laughed out loud, then screamed,

then began to cry and then started to jump up and down!

Ibn Hazm said, ‘Thereafter, I would see him in the streets of

Spain. He had gone mad and children would pelt stones at him.’

What This Story Teaches Us

If these four people, by using their skills, were able to change

not only the nature of the person but also his mind, then how

about the tried and tested skills that are supported by revelation

which a person can put into practice in order to become closer

to Allah(God)?

Put into practice whatever good skills you come across and

you will be happy.

You Can Learn and Grow

If you say to me, “I cannot.”

I would say to you, “At least try!”

If you say to me, “I don’t know how.”

I would say, “Yes, you do!”

The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, “Knowledge is only gained through

learning, and clemency is only gained through perseverance.”

A Point of View...

The hero is the one who goes beyond his ability to improve

his skills, until he becomes able to improve, and perhaps even

alter, the skills of others.

THANKS!